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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 740073" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Seconding what SWOT said. Also I’ve found I get better results when I skip the angry confrontation but hold firm to logical consequences. As in: “we both know what you did and it’s done and over now. But as a result, I will never again hand cash to you for any reason, until I am 100% sure you are sober. So don’t ask me. I’m not going to get angry, but you lost my trust and will have to earn it back over time.” Repeat as needed when he asks again for money. Ignore any resulting emotional outbursts. “Sorry you’re upset. This is what happens when you break someone’s trust.” And move on. </p><p></p><p>Don’t be angry with yourself. Wanting to trust those with love is a normal human thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 740073, member: 23349"] Seconding what SWOT said. Also I’ve found I get better results when I skip the angry confrontation but hold firm to logical consequences. As in: “we both know what you did and it’s done and over now. But as a result, I will never again hand cash to you for any reason, until I am 100% sure you are sober. So don’t ask me. I’m not going to get angry, but you lost my trust and will have to earn it back over time.” Repeat as needed when he asks again for money. Ignore any resulting emotional outbursts. “Sorry you’re upset. This is what happens when you break someone’s trust.” And move on. Don’t be angry with yourself. Wanting to trust those with love is a normal human thing. [/QUOTE]
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