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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 755511" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>You've already gotten good advice. I'd add to that to expect to feel uncomfortable or guilty when you set boundaries. Entitled and unhealthy people don't like boundaries; they want to keep you in the FOG of fear, obligation, and guilt. They will up the ante to see what it will take to get you to give in. </p><p></p><p>It's getting easier for me to set healthy boundaries, but that doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt to see the choices my difficult adult children make. I still worry and feel sad often. One thing I've learned, for whatever reason, is that they don't really care about the consequences of their choices and requests on me. </p><p></p><p>I am retired, getting older, and on a limited income. I focus on self-care and making choices that are financially, emotionally, and phsically healthy for me. </p><p>With the support of people of this site, therapy, 12 step, etc. I am sure you can begin to take your life back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 755511, member: 19832"] You've already gotten good advice. I'd add to that to expect to feel uncomfortable or guilty when you set boundaries. Entitled and unhealthy people don't like boundaries; they want to keep you in the FOG of fear, obligation, and guilt. They will up the ante to see what it will take to get you to give in. It's getting easier for me to set healthy boundaries, but that doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt to see the choices my difficult adult children make. I still worry and feel sad often. One thing I've learned, for whatever reason, is that they don't really care about the consequences of their choices and requests on me. I am retired, getting older, and on a limited income. I focus on self-care and making choices that are financially, emotionally, and phsically healthy for me. With the support of people of this site, therapy, 12 step, etc. I am sure you can begin to take your life back. [/QUOTE]
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