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<blockquote data-quote="sfgal" data-source="post: 762348" data-attributes="member: 29444"><p>Well this tough love approach may be fine for those in different faiths than Christianity, but for Christians we have instructions in the Bible that says not helping someone in our own household is being worse than someone not in the faith, and albeit a sin. Our values are different and are based on putting others first, loving as ourselves, and giving your own cloak. Therapists opinions not important for the measure is the mind of Christ. Just sharing a cultural clash. 1 Timothy 5: 8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.</p><p>From that reference point, I find this me-me attitude troubling. Sometimes people can't survive without helps of others, not everyone suddenly can work for him or herself. I have seen homeless dead on the street, dysfunctional persons. Betty Eadie was an author who shared decades back of having NDE. She came back with the message that what we do ripples out in the world; if we love that love ripples out, we feels the positivity our sacrifice has, how far it goes - if we reject, that rejection also ripples out and has negative impact. Outside of religion there are cultures that support family never consider cutting them off. Multi-generations live in the same households or nearby. </p><p>Sure you can condition yourself to this me viewpoint and turn off conscience, but that doesn't necessarily mean that peace mean you made the right choice. Setting boundaries to a point is part of Christianity, that is where faith-based counseling comes in, and family who is dangerous and does not respond, can bear the consequence of that sin, and be exiled. But family members who are just not competent to take care of themselves, getting more common with the outrageous inflation, that incompetence is never grounds to not help if able. Just sharing another perspective.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sfgal, post: 762348, member: 29444"] Well this tough love approach may be fine for those in different faiths than Christianity, but for Christians we have instructions in the Bible that says not helping someone in our own household is being worse than someone not in the faith, and albeit a sin. Our values are different and are based on putting others first, loving as ourselves, and giving your own cloak. Therapists opinions not important for the measure is the mind of Christ. Just sharing a cultural clash. 1 Timothy 5: 8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. From that reference point, I find this me-me attitude troubling. Sometimes people can't survive without helps of others, not everyone suddenly can work for him or herself. I have seen homeless dead on the street, dysfunctional persons. Betty Eadie was an author who shared decades back of having NDE. She came back with the message that what we do ripples out in the world; if we love that love ripples out, we feels the positivity our sacrifice has, how far it goes - if we reject, that rejection also ripples out and has negative impact. Outside of religion there are cultures that support family never consider cutting them off. Multi-generations live in the same households or nearby. Sure you can condition yourself to this me viewpoint and turn off conscience, but that doesn't necessarily mean that peace mean you made the right choice. Setting boundaries to a point is part of Christianity, that is where faith-based counseling comes in, and family who is dangerous and does not respond, can bear the consequence of that sin, and be exiled. But family members who are just not competent to take care of themselves, getting more common with the outrageous inflation, that incompetence is never grounds to not help if able. Just sharing another perspective. [/QUOTE]
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