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Meltdown begets meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 744113" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Ugh. What a ...crappy day. I’m sorry. I’m glad you’re not taking the things he said to heart. </p><p></p><p>As far as whether they are mental illness or plain manipulation, I guess I’m at the point where I’m just like...what’s the difference? Why do any of us behave the way we do? What does it matter what we call it? </p><p></p><p>I’d probably let the unflushed poop go and focus on the other behaviors. I would also not get drawn into relitigating the past. Perhaps just ‘that’s not relevant now and we’re not going to discuss it.’ </p><p></p><p>So, questions:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Why was he staying at your house? Can you tell him he is not welcome to stay again since he is treating you poorly? </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Where is the partner staying? When does he go back to Chicago?</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">What happens when he runs out of medications again? Can you tell him he’s on his own now since he is not keeping up his end of the deal with getting to appointments?</li> </ul><p>He is clearly taking advantage of you. Staying with you was not part of the deal. Having you provide his medications was not part of the deal. Inviting his partner down and sucking you into their drama was not part of the deal. </p><p></p><p>This seems to be going in the wrong direction. Has he made any progress towards the things he came down there to do? What has he accomplished since he’s come home?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 744113, member: 23349"] Ugh. What a ...crappy day. I’m sorry. I’m glad you’re not taking the things he said to heart. As far as whether they are mental illness or plain manipulation, I guess I’m at the point where I’m just like...what’s the difference? Why do any of us behave the way we do? What does it matter what we call it? I’d probably let the unflushed poop go and focus on the other behaviors. I would also not get drawn into relitigating the past. Perhaps just ‘that’s not relevant now and we’re not going to discuss it.’ So, questions: [LIST] [*]Why was he staying at your house? Can you tell him he is not welcome to stay again since he is treating you poorly? [*]Where is the partner staying? When does he go back to Chicago? [*]What happens when he runs out of medications again? Can you tell him he’s on his own now since he is not keeping up his end of the deal with getting to appointments? [/LIST] He is clearly taking advantage of you. Staying with you was not part of the deal. Having you provide his medications was not part of the deal. Inviting his partner down and sucking you into their drama was not part of the deal. This seems to be going in the wrong direction. Has he made any progress towards the things he came down there to do? What has he accomplished since he’s come home? [/QUOTE]
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