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Meltdown begets meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744117" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There is no way he would be living with me. No way. But we are all different.</p><p></p><p>Are you sure your son used your money for medication and is taking it correctly?</p><p></p><p>I would and have set boundaries down on what your son is allowed to say to you in your house. I do the same with one of my kids but he lives far away so I hang up if he breaks the rules and he doesnt much anymore.</p><p></p><p>The rules are that he is not allowed to say mean, hurtful things to me or cuss at me. Period. I dont do it to him so I say the rule goes both ways. In your case I would throw him out any time he talked that way or withhold something he cares about. Honestly he sounds like he is not very aporeciative of your love and caring....and there is no excuse for his behavior. He is not psychotuc, just mean and maybe using drugs.</p><p></p><p>Mental illness does not make you an &&&hole. He doesnt scream and yell at his friends about how horrible they are. He has control of himself when he wants to or nobody would speak to him. He most certainly doesnt have to talk that way to you. And only you can teach him to treat you better or face serious consequences. There is no excuse for that tirade. Dont listen to it. Make him leave when he does that.</p><p></p><p>If you listen you are giving him permission to treat you like crap if you allow it and dont take serious action.</p><p></p><p>Its not easy to set a boundary but sometimes its best for both of us.</p><p></p><p>Why cant he get on Medicaid and pay for his own medicine? If he takes it.</p><p></p><p>I certainly hope you never let him use your car. He wants to party all night? Let him walk there and lock him out. He has gall acting this way in YOUR home, which should be your sanctuary. If he makes you feel scared/uncomfortable in your own house in my opinion he should have to leave and figure it out himself. He is not 14.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744117, member: 1550"] There is no way he would be living with me. No way. But we are all different. Are you sure your son used your money for medication and is taking it correctly? I would and have set boundaries down on what your son is allowed to say to you in your house. I do the same with one of my kids but he lives far away so I hang up if he breaks the rules and he doesnt much anymore. The rules are that he is not allowed to say mean, hurtful things to me or cuss at me. Period. I dont do it to him so I say the rule goes both ways. In your case I would throw him out any time he talked that way or withhold something he cares about. Honestly he sounds like he is not very aporeciative of your love and caring....and there is no excuse for his behavior. He is not psychotuc, just mean and maybe using drugs. Mental illness does not make you an &&&hole. He doesnt scream and yell at his friends about how horrible they are. He has control of himself when he wants to or nobody would speak to him. He most certainly doesnt have to talk that way to you. And only you can teach him to treat you better or face serious consequences. There is no excuse for that tirade. Dont listen to it. Make him leave when he does that. If you listen you are giving him permission to treat you like crap if you allow it and dont take serious action. Its not easy to set a boundary but sometimes its best for both of us. Why cant he get on Medicaid and pay for his own medicine? If he takes it. I certainly hope you never let him use your car. He wants to party all night? Let him walk there and lock him out. He has gall acting this way in YOUR home, which should be your sanctuary. If he makes you feel scared/uncomfortable in your own house in my opinion he should have to leave and figure it out himself. He is not 14. [/QUOTE]
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