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Meltdown begets meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744124" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Intervention is a TV show. Dont waste your time and money. Dont talk to him about anything. Tell him the rules shortly, or write the rules down and hand them to him (have extra copies for when he tears it up). He doesnt get a say. This is not a discussion of the rules. He doesnt to argue about this.</p><p></p><p>Be sure to letlhim know his rules in a crowded restaurant so that he cant hit you or destroy your home. Do not read him the riot act at home. Again...do not have this meeting at home. Did I mention do not tell him your absolute, non-negotiable rules at home?? </p><p></p><p>Do not hear him out. This is not a two way discussion. If he acts up hand him the rules and leave and call the poice if he follows you home or goes there later or tries to break in. You are serious this time. He is abusing you, possibly committing elder abuse.</p><p></p><p>This is one young man who needs to learn that life is hard. He has a place to stay with some girl he says, and even if he doesnt he never has the automatic privledge of being allowed in your home if he wont be civil or even wash a dish. Who does he think he is? Your slavedriver?</p><p></p><p>I really think this adult man needs a real consequental slapdown. He is quite the entitled man toddler who thinks he can do and say whatever he wants and still get favors from you. That in my opinion is not good for any of you. This is not worth your health. He should only see you in a crowded restaurant where you can walk away if he abuses you, not in your home, your sanctuary.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if this sounds harsh. He honestly sounds terrible and believe me he does NOT talk to his friends the way he talks to you or he wouldn't have any friends. He has control over how he behaves. This is not mental illness. This is brat. Or brat plus drugs and you are not a professional who can handle either. If he needs to detox he needs a hospital. You dont know how to help him. I am outraged for you and husband. Let him leave. Dont let him back in your house.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744124, member: 1550"] Intervention is a TV show. Dont waste your time and money. Dont talk to him about anything. Tell him the rules shortly, or write the rules down and hand them to him (have extra copies for when he tears it up). He doesnt get a say. This is not a discussion of the rules. He doesnt to argue about this. Be sure to letlhim know his rules in a crowded restaurant so that he cant hit you or destroy your home. Do not read him the riot act at home. Again...do not have this meeting at home. Did I mention do not tell him your absolute, non-negotiable rules at home?? Do not hear him out. This is not a two way discussion. If he acts up hand him the rules and leave and call the poice if he follows you home or goes there later or tries to break in. You are serious this time. He is abusing you, possibly committing elder abuse. This is one young man who needs to learn that life is hard. He has a place to stay with some girl he says, and even if he doesnt he never has the automatic privledge of being allowed in your home if he wont be civil or even wash a dish. Who does he think he is? Your slavedriver? I really think this adult man needs a real consequental slapdown. He is quite the entitled man toddler who thinks he can do and say whatever he wants and still get favors from you. That in my opinion is not good for any of you. This is not worth your health. He should only see you in a crowded restaurant where you can walk away if he abuses you, not in your home, your sanctuary. Sorry if this sounds harsh. He honestly sounds terrible and believe me he does NOT talk to his friends the way he talks to you or he wouldn't have any friends. He has control over how he behaves. This is not mental illness. This is brat. Or brat plus drugs and you are not a professional who can handle either. If he needs to detox he needs a hospital. You dont know how to help him. I am outraged for you and husband. Let him leave. Dont let him back in your house. [/QUOTE]
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