I went through that 7 years ago when I was in drug-induced menopause (the drug Lupron was used). It was supposed to be for 6 months, but after 3 months I told the doctor that I wanted to kill someone and I wasn't picky about who. Doctors tend to act kinda funny when you say something like that. :hammer: I wasn't allowed to do HRT because that would defeat the purpose. So, I completely understand where you are coming from. No wonder difficult child is sending you through the roof. Other than keeping my hair pulled off my neck and carrying a hand fan with me at all times, I don't have much to offer. I was known to open all the windows in mid-December.
My mother used some soy-based product by Monastat for awhile until she learned that it carried the same risks as all other hormone replacement therapies. She did get quite a bit of relief from the hot-flashes, though, while she was taking it. Said they were more like warm-flashes. She thought it would be safer since it was natural, but then learned that the same risks applied and stopped.
What does your doctor say?
