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Message: <blockquote data-quote="MommaTried24" data-source="post: 765782" data-attributes="member: 33205">Thank you New Leaf! I know so many on this forum are like us in wanting to jump in and help at the first sign of hope. The messages from him were almost shocking this time yet long overdue. Wow is right and it's exactly what I said. LOL!I'm very mentally unhealthy in this world of alcoholism combined with the epilepsy and always unsure of how I am responding. I question my every move as his mother because I feel like I've failed so miserably. I've tried so hard in the past and still wanting to do everything just right. We think FINALLY they are getting it and there is hope only to be let down time and time again. Like you, I've helped and helped (whether it's in rehab or straight out of jail) only to feel used, disappointed and heartbroken all over again. Unfortunately, I know you know how this feels.So many times in life as a grown adult, I've needed my mother and she was always there for me. However, I was never addicted to anything. I was the good, considerate, hardworking kid. It's learned behavior to want to do for him what my mom was able to do for me. Nandina is right though, he's 28 years old and seems to want to do this one his own. If I intervene again, maybe it will make him feel like I don't think he can do it on his own? I think he can, I just know how hard life is for normal people to make it, much less an epileptic who has alcoholism. I am going to stay the course and let go and let God. All I can do is keep praying God will send him the right people to help him through. Time has proven that that person isn't me. I've made it clear that he has access to help. He is disabled and on Medicare so he could enter back into rehab if he's really serious and ends up with no place to go.Thanks again to both New Leaf and Nandina for your responses. I went to an Alanon meeting today so feeling a little better about it.</blockquote>

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