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Message: <blockquote data-quote="SageAngel" data-source="post: 765407" data-attributes="member: 33368">Thank you for your kind response. She is able to handle self care now that she is sober. She takes a daily shower, wears clean clothing, and participates in group therapy. When she was here with me, she was extremely polite, made her bed, washed her dishes, and cleaned and cooked with me. We hiked together, went to AA meetings online together, and did short field trips together. She is very intelligent. She did not exhibit ANY behavioral issues prior to her drug use. She just suffered a LOT of trauma in her family, ugly divorce, foster care because her parents were so bitter to each other. My sister tries her best, but she is an enabler, just like our Mother. I was the lucky one because after years of abuse by my Mother, I was sent to live with my Father because I was incorrigeable. (SP?) I wasn't going to stand for my Mothers string of boyfriends and her revolving door of husbands  sexually molesting me and  my sister and was very outspoken about this. So she shipped me out at the age of 11. This is what actually saved my life. I enrolled myself in therapy once I realized that my Mothers parenting skills were non existant. My Father, although he is an alcoholic, understood the importance of responsibility and accountability, and he practiced this with loving kindness and firmness. I went on to have four wonderful sons, all of whom finished college, and I have a great relationship with to this day. They are in their 40's. She is not being mistreated in her current facility, I just feel that she needs more which includes individual therapy, and the road to this is a referral from an acute care hospital. Again another barrier to care, but its the only way to get her there. I do plan on supporting her emotionally for the rest of her life either way. I was there when she took her first breath, and I will never walk away from her even if it turns out she is truly schizophrenic.  She called me on Sunday to wish me a Happy Mothers Day, and it filled my heart with hope and joy. I have given her a toolbox, filled it with tools, and given her a map. But it is ultimately up to her to use the tools and follow the map, because this journey is hers. Peace be with you as well , on your journey with your son.</blockquote>

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