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<blockquote data-quote="SageAngel" data-source="post: 765435" data-attributes="member: 33368"><p>I am sorry for this misfortune with your daughter. You did not cause this, and you cannot control or change this. My sister has spun her wheels for years, 15 years to be exact. She caters to her every whim out of guilt. And my niece is very manipulative.&nbsp; Bailing her out, putting her through rehab, dealing with law enforcement on a weekly basis. This has caused my sister so much distress, high blood pressure, kidney failure. That is when I said &quot;that is enough&quot;. She finally filed a restraining order, and when her daughter violated it, she was taken to jail. She gets picked up about every six weeks for open drug use. So this time is different. My sister still gets a twinge of wanting to enable her daughters behavior, which she sees as helping. I see it for what it is, if that makes any sense. I love my niece dearly, but I will not let her manipulate me. Sometimes when she calls she begs for me to get her out of there. It is really hard to listen to, and it breaks my heart. Then she calls my sister and does the same thing. I have to keep reminding her what &quot;consequences&quot; look like. I am guessing a lot of cities and states do not have lock down psychiatric hospitals, as California does. If these hospitals did not exist, she would have died a LONG TIME ago from a drug overdose.&nbsp; Even Arizona, where I live, does not have them, except for the 3 day 5150 hold. The only alternative is incarceration, or homelessness, alcohol and drug abuse. I have been going to Nar Anon meetings online, and they have been extremey helpful and supportive.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="SageAngel, post: 765435, member: 33368"] I am sorry for this misfortune with your daughter. You did not cause this, and you cannot control or change this. My sister has spun her wheels for years, 15 years to be exact. She caters to her every whim out of guilt. And my niece is very manipulative. Bailing her out, putting her through rehab, dealing with law enforcement on a weekly basis. This has caused my sister so much distress, high blood pressure, kidney failure. That is when I said "that is enough". She finally filed a restraining order, and when her daughter violated it, she was taken to jail. She gets picked up about every six weeks for open drug use. So this time is different. My sister still gets a twinge of wanting to enable her daughters behavior, which she sees as helping. I see it for what it is, if that makes any sense. I love my niece dearly, but I will not let her manipulate me. Sometimes when she calls she begs for me to get her out of there. It is really hard to listen to, and it breaks my heart. Then she calls my sister and does the same thing. I have to keep reminding her what "consequences" look like. I am guessing a lot of cities and states do not have lock down psychiatric hospitals, as California does. If these hospitals did not exist, she would have died a LONG TIME ago from a drug overdose. Even Arizona, where I live, does not have them, except for the 3 day 5150 hold. The only alternative is incarceration, or homelessness, alcohol and drug abuse. I have been going to Nar Anon meetings online, and they have been extremey helpful and supportive. [/QUOTE]

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