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Mikey, where are you?????
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 39213" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Mikey,</p><p>so glad you responded so we know you are still there! I too don't think anyone was saying boot him out--after all, he is underage, you can't do that anyway. I think we all just feel strongly that he needs to be held accountable for his actions and that he is a master of manipulation and all the folks advising you don't seem to see that--in fact, your therapist seems to be encouraging it! I think he has everyone snowed--my dtr certainly did. I agree that the pot smoking probably is due to the underlying issue--the thing is, just because he has underlying emotional issues shouldn't mean he gets to call the shots. He seems to have a huge entitlement issue and I think everyone tiptoeing around worrying about his emotional issues is only feeding into that. He has figured out the game--his doing well in school is of utmost importance to you--it is the weapon he can use to pretty much flaunt his power in your face. I don't think that will change til he takes ownership of his life. I wish I was a better writer, am frustrated that I can't seem to communicate what I want to say in a clearer way! Maybe someone else will do better. </p><p></p><p>I guess my viewpoint is that the pot smoking may not be a big issue--he doesn't really sound like a "stoner", only a wanna be stoner. I think the issue is that you are in a power struggle and until you let go and let him decide he owns his life nothing can really change. Right now he can't admit that his education is important to him because it is so important to you--you have taken over what belongs to him. When your own life is your priority and he sees this he may be able to care about his own. Make any sense? I doubt it but I tried! I have gone through this with both my dtrs so I'm trying to share what I've learned.</p><p></p><p>Hang in with us--we all care!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 39213, member: 3450"] Hi Mikey, so glad you responded so we know you are still there! I too don't think anyone was saying boot him out--after all, he is underage, you can't do that anyway. I think we all just feel strongly that he needs to be held accountable for his actions and that he is a master of manipulation and all the folks advising you don't seem to see that--in fact, your therapist seems to be encouraging it! I think he has everyone snowed--my dtr certainly did. I agree that the pot smoking probably is due to the underlying issue--the thing is, just because he has underlying emotional issues shouldn't mean he gets to call the shots. He seems to have a huge entitlement issue and I think everyone tiptoeing around worrying about his emotional issues is only feeding into that. He has figured out the game--his doing well in school is of utmost importance to you--it is the weapon he can use to pretty much flaunt his power in your face. I don't think that will change til he takes ownership of his life. I wish I was a better writer, am frustrated that I can't seem to communicate what I want to say in a clearer way! Maybe someone else will do better. I guess my viewpoint is that the pot smoking may not be a big issue--he doesn't really sound like a "stoner", only a wanna be stoner. I think the issue is that you are in a power struggle and until you let go and let him decide he owns his life nothing can really change. Right now he can't admit that his education is important to him because it is so important to you--you have taken over what belongs to him. When your own life is your priority and he sees this he may be able to care about his own. Make any sense? I doubt it but I tried! I have gone through this with both my dtrs so I'm trying to share what I've learned. Hang in with us--we all care! Jane [/QUOTE]
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