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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 726459" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds like you have a plan for the short term. Stick around here. It is a wonderful place to find support as you go through these years with a challenging teenager. </p><p></p><p>I really hope the therapist has ideas that help. I would suggest that you leave a message for the therapist on voicemail or by email about this. I would say that your son created a major crisis by stealing a credit card to buy game stuff and that you will need to discuss it in the next scheduled appointment. You don't need to schedule an appointment sooner, but wanted the therapist to know about this ahead of time.</p><p></p><p>The reason to tell the therapist ahead of time is two-fold. It gives the therapist some time to think about what would or could be appropriate for your situation. He has time to process so that he can be prepared, at least a little. It also keeps you from just letting the issue go because it has been a couple of weeks and your son has been "well behaved" since then or whatever comes up. You have imposed some consequences and if you don't tell the therapist, you won't have his input to see if he thinks other consequences will be needed also. It might be easy to get caught up in other things that happen between now and when you see the therapist. This would make it easy to let the theft slip from your mind during the therapy session. </p><p></p><p>Part of the reason I think the theft could slip from your mind is because of experiences with my son. If he had done something that his therapist needed to know, but we would not see the therapist for a while, he would try to make it so that I could not remember what he had done. Wiz might have been so well behaved that all I could do is rave about that. Or he might do so many things to bother me or upset the whole family that the big thing would just disappear into the forest of bad behavior. Either way, I found that leaving a message or sending an email about a big issue like the theft was a good way to stop my son from manipulating to try to get me to forget about whatever it was. </p><p></p><p>I really hope that made sense! It did in my mind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 726459, member: 1233"] It sounds like you have a plan for the short term. Stick around here. It is a wonderful place to find support as you go through these years with a challenging teenager. I really hope the therapist has ideas that help. I would suggest that you leave a message for the therapist on voicemail or by email about this. I would say that your son created a major crisis by stealing a credit card to buy game stuff and that you will need to discuss it in the next scheduled appointment. You don't need to schedule an appointment sooner, but wanted the therapist to know about this ahead of time. The reason to tell the therapist ahead of time is two-fold. It gives the therapist some time to think about what would or could be appropriate for your situation. He has time to process so that he can be prepared, at least a little. It also keeps you from just letting the issue go because it has been a couple of weeks and your son has been "well behaved" since then or whatever comes up. You have imposed some consequences and if you don't tell the therapist, you won't have his input to see if he thinks other consequences will be needed also. It might be easy to get caught up in other things that happen between now and when you see the therapist. This would make it easy to let the theft slip from your mind during the therapy session. Part of the reason I think the theft could slip from your mind is because of experiences with my son. If he had done something that his therapist needed to know, but we would not see the therapist for a while, he would try to make it so that I could not remember what he had done. Wiz might have been so well behaved that all I could do is rave about that. Or he might do so many things to bother me or upset the whole family that the big thing would just disappear into the forest of bad behavior. Either way, I found that leaving a message or sending an email about a big issue like the theft was a good way to stop my son from manipulating to try to get me to forget about whatever it was. I really hope that made sense! It did in my mind. [/QUOTE]
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