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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743377" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa....I read hastily and am sorry. You are right. It hurts nothing to sit and listen silently to grievances. Then we can decide if we can fix it. Or not. Very true.</p><p></p><p>Copa I do not think I would go this far even for a child I loved very much. Difficult like Bart, yes. We still have a strong love connection. He does not always speak nice but he isnt personally critical of me. I never doubt his love.</p><p></p><p> If one if my kids were cold to me, I would be very uncomfortable. I have trouble being in a space of disapproval and shame and couldnt do it even to keep contact with a mean adult child. I dont think I would choose to. That doesnt mean I feel a decision to do so is wrong. In difficult personal relationships with people we love, to me there is no right or wrong. We do what we can handle.</p><p></p><p>Your mother was strong. I mean that. I could not have handled that treatment for any reason. But I am very sensitive. I dont have that sort of strength. I really do leave difficult relationships, albeit sometimes too late.</p><p></p><p>Copa I am in my happy place with my loving family of choice and chosen few friends that I volunteer with. But some people will do whatever to be near people they love who may not be so kind. And they prefer it that way. And kudos to them for doing what they feel is right for them.</p><p></p><p>Forgive me please for answering your post before I had time to read it more carefully. Plus I should read nothing before coffee <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Love ya!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743377, member: 1550"] Copa....I read hastily and am sorry. You are right. It hurts nothing to sit and listen silently to grievances. Then we can decide if we can fix it. Or not. Very true. Copa I do not think I would go this far even for a child I loved very much. Difficult like Bart, yes. We still have a strong love connection. He does not always speak nice but he isnt personally critical of me. I never doubt his love. If one if my kids were cold to me, I would be very uncomfortable. I have trouble being in a space of disapproval and shame and couldnt do it even to keep contact with a mean adult child. I dont think I would choose to. That doesnt mean I feel a decision to do so is wrong. In difficult personal relationships with people we love, to me there is no right or wrong. We do what we can handle. Your mother was strong. I mean that. I could not have handled that treatment for any reason. But I am very sensitive. I dont have that sort of strength. I really do leave difficult relationships, albeit sometimes too late. Copa I am in my happy place with my loving family of choice and chosen few friends that I volunteer with. But some people will do whatever to be near people they love who may not be so kind. And they prefer it that way. And kudos to them for doing what they feel is right for them. Forgive me please for answering your post before I had time to read it more carefully. Plus I should read nothing before coffee ;) Love ya! [/QUOTE]
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