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<blockquote data-quote="Tired Mom" data-source="post: 670961" data-attributes="member: 18222"><p>I may sound negative but when my son first came back from rehab he was very cold to us. Almost from the very day after he overdosing he consistently told us he wanted to go back to school. Since he hadn't been at the community college for so long he had to go in person to reset his password and that was to much work for him so he didn't go back to school. The first week I let it slide that he wasn't looking for a job. The second week I told him he had to have a job. His friend got him a construction job and he went on a Monday and Tuesday then the next three he days he would get up at 530 say his friend was picking him up and then his friend didn't show up. I asked him if that was really what he wanted to do and it didn't seem reliable in the least. So that weekend I went to his old job and talked to his old boss who really cared about him. I gave him my sons phone number and he texted him about a job and my son accepted his invitation. I am sure it was enabling on my part because when I had suggested that he approach his old boss about a job he refused to. Hopefully it wasn't a mistake getting him the job but almost immediately my son became much easier to live with. With the girl friend he managed to get arrested for trespassing. He didn't tell us the only way I found out was when I opened the receipt for him paying his girlfriends fine. I told him he had tell his PTI officer since he was out of state a violation and being arrested was a violation. Hopefully he did he said his PTI officer was grumpy about it and made a note in his file. We had one incident where me and my husband thought something was off with my son but since he had PTI the next day where he would be drug tested we let it go. It has been mixed since he came back. He's happy with the job and girlfriend. We told him since he's not in school he needs to pay us rent and he doesn't mind. He does his own laundry which he didn't in the past. We take it one day at a time. He has recently told us about two people he knows who just started the culinary program he was in and I just bite my tounge about asking him if he wants to go back as well. It is the same friend who got him the construction job that is now working with him. My son didn't tell me that this friend went to rehab but when I found out the construction job was with someone who at least a bit was associated with his old friends I looked him up on facebook and could tell he went to rehab in Florida in the same city for about the same time as my son. I don't think it will happen but I would love to talk to this friends parents. This friend used to play soccer with my son and while he is a year younger he was part the same cubscout pack and so a little we know the parents and they always seemed nice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired Mom, post: 670961, member: 18222"] I may sound negative but when my son first came back from rehab he was very cold to us. Almost from the very day after he overdosing he consistently told us he wanted to go back to school. Since he hadn't been at the community college for so long he had to go in person to reset his password and that was to much work for him so he didn't go back to school. The first week I let it slide that he wasn't looking for a job. The second week I told him he had to have a job. His friend got him a construction job and he went on a Monday and Tuesday then the next three he days he would get up at 530 say his friend was picking him up and then his friend didn't show up. I asked him if that was really what he wanted to do and it didn't seem reliable in the least. So that weekend I went to his old job and talked to his old boss who really cared about him. I gave him my sons phone number and he texted him about a job and my son accepted his invitation. I am sure it was enabling on my part because when I had suggested that he approach his old boss about a job he refused to. Hopefully it wasn't a mistake getting him the job but almost immediately my son became much easier to live with. With the girl friend he managed to get arrested for trespassing. He didn't tell us the only way I found out was when I opened the receipt for him paying his girlfriends fine. I told him he had tell his PTI officer since he was out of state a violation and being arrested was a violation. Hopefully he did he said his PTI officer was grumpy about it and made a note in his file. We had one incident where me and my husband thought something was off with my son but since he had PTI the next day where he would be drug tested we let it go. It has been mixed since he came back. He's happy with the job and girlfriend. We told him since he's not in school he needs to pay us rent and he doesn't mind. He does his own laundry which he didn't in the past. We take it one day at a time. He has recently told us about two people he knows who just started the culinary program he was in and I just bite my tounge about asking him if he wants to go back as well. It is the same friend who got him the construction job that is now working with him. My son didn't tell me that this friend went to rehab but when I found out the construction job was with someone who at least a bit was associated with his old friends I looked him up on facebook and could tell he went to rehab in Florida in the same city for about the same time as my son. I don't think it will happen but I would love to talk to this friends parents. This friend used to play soccer with my son and while he is a year younger he was part the same cubscout pack and so a little we know the parents and they always seemed nice. [/QUOTE]
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