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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 584452" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I know it's exhausting.......and I totally get the break issue. Travis was never medicated, although his docs did try. I wouldn't do it except his seizure medication. I can be terribly stubborn. I just couldn't see how he would ever learn to adjust behaviors on medication to mask those behaviors. Seventeen was an awful age for Travis, 18 wasn't a whole lot better. He was determined (obsessed) with getting his license even though he could never pass the vision test. Nearly drove me crazy with it. I understood. But you can only hear about it so many times before it drives you nuts, and of course it was somehow my fault. I had to get experts to help convince him it wasn't doable......even then he was furious. Then he wanted the freedoms ect other kids his age had (at this age he couldn't yet be trusted home alone) and it finally came to a head one day when I not so nicely told him if he wanted privileges he had to earn them just as his sisters did, he had to show me he could handle the responsibility that went with those privileges. </p><p></p><p>Snitching food I solved for the most part by not buying anything that didn't have to be made from scratch. He was not allowed at that point anywhere near the stove/microwave.......so that limited his snitching possibilities. When he went to work at 18, if he snitched food he had to replace it. It took about a year, but he stopped snitching it. He learned to ask. </p><p></p><p>I was looking into guardianship around this age because it <strong>was</strong> such a full time job. At 17 he had the maturity at best of a 12 yr old, usually quite younger. The tech school he went to in high school also helped with maturity........it was an area they actively worked on with the kids along with social skills. It was the first school environment where he was accepted as "just one of the kids" and teachers bent over backward to help all the kids in the classes, had the resources to do so. It's where he got his computer training. </p><p></p><p>With difficult child's interest in food/cook books perhaps you have a budding chef in the family. Is there perhaps a trade school in the area that could cater to this interest and build upon it? Finding a way to use Travis' obsession with both computers and sci fi was one of the smarter decisions we ever made. He built from the ground up the super computer in his room and the one I'm using now for a small fraction of what the cost would've been bought retail. (his I don't even think you could buy retail lol ) Might be something worth looking in to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 584452, member: 84"] I know it's exhausting.......and I totally get the break issue. Travis was never medicated, although his docs did try. I wouldn't do it except his seizure medication. I can be terribly stubborn. I just couldn't see how he would ever learn to adjust behaviors on medication to mask those behaviors. Seventeen was an awful age for Travis, 18 wasn't a whole lot better. He was determined (obsessed) with getting his license even though he could never pass the vision test. Nearly drove me crazy with it. I understood. But you can only hear about it so many times before it drives you nuts, and of course it was somehow my fault. I had to get experts to help convince him it wasn't doable......even then he was furious. Then he wanted the freedoms ect other kids his age had (at this age he couldn't yet be trusted home alone) and it finally came to a head one day when I not so nicely told him if he wanted privileges he had to earn them just as his sisters did, he had to show me he could handle the responsibility that went with those privileges. Snitching food I solved for the most part by not buying anything that didn't have to be made from scratch. He was not allowed at that point anywhere near the stove/microwave.......so that limited his snitching possibilities. When he went to work at 18, if he snitched food he had to replace it. It took about a year, but he stopped snitching it. He learned to ask. I was looking into guardianship around this age because it [B]was[/B] such a full time job. At 17 he had the maturity at best of a 12 yr old, usually quite younger. The tech school he went to in high school also helped with maturity........it was an area they actively worked on with the kids along with social skills. It was the first school environment where he was accepted as "just one of the kids" and teachers bent over backward to help all the kids in the classes, had the resources to do so. It's where he got his computer training. With difficult child's interest in food/cook books perhaps you have a budding chef in the family. Is there perhaps a trade school in the area that could cater to this interest and build upon it? Finding a way to use Travis' obsession with both computers and sci fi was one of the smarter decisions we ever made. He built from the ground up the super computer in his room and the one I'm using now for a small fraction of what the cost would've been bought retail. (his I don't even think you could buy retail lol ) Might be something worth looking in to. [/QUOTE]
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