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<blockquote data-quote="Guidance seeker" data-source="post: 726274" data-attributes="member: 22632"><p>LBL - I can’t express how much of a support to me you have been this last few days. Thank you.</p><p></p><p>There were things at my house that we kept here following his eviction from the first hostel at the start of November as we had to clear his room (they wouldn’t let him) so we brought it home as he was homeless. After the police visit this morning, I started to be concerned as I’m not sure if these have been bought legally or not.</p><p></p><p>I decided to take them to his lock up with him and I also removed anything from the lock up that I knew belonged to him for sure - his tv and clothes etc because the lock up rent expires in a few days and I didn’t want him to lose his own things.</p><p></p><p>The day turned into 6 hours spent with him - taking him to a probation appointment and to an appointment about a voucher for second hand furniture. </p><p></p><p>He was ok with me but I was nagging at him about all of his problems that worry me. Also when I picked him up from the B and B, he had a toolbox that seemed to have randomly turned up overnight - the fact that he’s still involved in something (not sure what) stressed me and I seemed to get myself on a roll about his life.</p><p></p><p>I didn’t stay strong as I don’t when I’m with him and I put money towards a cheap hotel for him the next 3 nights. I didn’t ask how he raised some money. Once he was booked in, his attitude towards me changed - I’m not sure it was because he had got what he wanted or if it was because I have nagged so much. Anyway,</p><p>It ended in an argument.</p><p></p><p>I came home feeling very upset. His mess of a life completely overwhelms me so much.</p><p></p><p>I know I have enabled and really wanted to stay strong. I’m a bit ashamed of myself. On the plus side, I didn’t give him money when he asked and didn’t call to a friends house who had something for him to take to the scrap man (sounded too dodgy). I wasn’t going to post this on here as I’d been doing so well but I decided to post it anyway and admit I’ve messed up again and enabled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Guidance seeker, post: 726274, member: 22632"] LBL - I can’t express how much of a support to me you have been this last few days. Thank you. There were things at my house that we kept here following his eviction from the first hostel at the start of November as we had to clear his room (they wouldn’t let him) so we brought it home as he was homeless. After the police visit this morning, I started to be concerned as I’m not sure if these have been bought legally or not. I decided to take them to his lock up with him and I also removed anything from the lock up that I knew belonged to him for sure - his tv and clothes etc because the lock up rent expires in a few days and I didn’t want him to lose his own things. The day turned into 6 hours spent with him - taking him to a probation appointment and to an appointment about a voucher for second hand furniture. He was ok with me but I was nagging at him about all of his problems that worry me. Also when I picked him up from the B and B, he had a toolbox that seemed to have randomly turned up overnight - the fact that he’s still involved in something (not sure what) stressed me and I seemed to get myself on a roll about his life. I didn’t stay strong as I don’t when I’m with him and I put money towards a cheap hotel for him the next 3 nights. I didn’t ask how he raised some money. Once he was booked in, his attitude towards me changed - I’m not sure it was because he had got what he wanted or if it was because I have nagged so much. Anyway, It ended in an argument. I came home feeling very upset. His mess of a life completely overwhelms me so much. I know I have enabled and really wanted to stay strong. I’m a bit ashamed of myself. On the plus side, I didn’t give him money when he asked and didn’t call to a friends house who had something for him to take to the scrap man (sounded too dodgy). I wasn’t going to post this on here as I’d been doing so well but I decided to post it anyway and admit I’ve messed up again and enabled. [/QUOTE]
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