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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 738046" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Dear Trying:</p><p></p><p>I could have written your post also not that long ago.</p><p></p><p>My son has lost 7 years of his life due to addiction but he has not LOST HIS LIFE yet. He has been sober since September and the only reason is because he is in a place where he is learning about God and forgiveness and changing his path in life. He did not WANT to go. He actually ran out during the intake process and my husband drove away not knowing what would happen to him. He bitterly fought this. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your pain and the pain of all of us on the board. It is such a waste of energy for all of us and does not help them.</p><p></p><p>If anyone can get their addicted son or daughter into a faith based program I highly recommend it. There is something inside of them that is hurting or damaged and they can't seem to crawl out of that hole even if they really want to. They think it's just too hard so they just keep on using. Staying sober because they are in a controlled environment isn't enough. </p><p></p><p>My son wanted to be close to us and he was not the type to couch surf or live in shelters. For that I am thankful because it did give us some leverage.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime I had to learn to detach and set firm boundaries and take care of myself. I honestly don't think there is anything else we can do. Coming to this forum to journalize and read what others has written helped me and it still does.</p><p></p><p>I prayed all the time as well. I feel like I was in a constant state of prayer while at work, at home, anywhere and at times wondered if anyone was even listening. My prayers have been answered in that my son is sober now and thinking clearly. I did not lose my faith through all of this. I just realized that recently. I knew I could not do this alone. No way.</p><p></p><p>Prayers that his journey will end in a good place and he will realize his potential very soon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 738046, member: 15032"] Dear Trying: I could have written your post also not that long ago. My son has lost 7 years of his life due to addiction but he has not LOST HIS LIFE yet. He has been sober since September and the only reason is because he is in a place where he is learning about God and forgiveness and changing his path in life. He did not WANT to go. He actually ran out during the intake process and my husband drove away not knowing what would happen to him. He bitterly fought this. I am so sorry for your pain and the pain of all of us on the board. It is such a waste of energy for all of us and does not help them. If anyone can get their addicted son or daughter into a faith based program I highly recommend it. There is something inside of them that is hurting or damaged and they can't seem to crawl out of that hole even if they really want to. They think it's just too hard so they just keep on using. Staying sober because they are in a controlled environment isn't enough. My son wanted to be close to us and he was not the type to couch surf or live in shelters. For that I am thankful because it did give us some leverage. In the meantime I had to learn to detach and set firm boundaries and take care of myself. I honestly don't think there is anything else we can do. Coming to this forum to journalize and read what others has written helped me and it still does. I prayed all the time as well. I feel like I was in a constant state of prayer while at work, at home, anywhere and at times wondered if anyone was even listening. My prayers have been answered in that my son is sober now and thinking clearly. I did not lose my faith through all of this. I just realized that recently. I knew I could not do this alone. No way. Prayers that his journey will end in a good place and he will realize his potential very soon. [/QUOTE]
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