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My 19 year old son is choosing to be homeless
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 748609" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Welcome- all of us here have similar stories. The bottom line is, as others have said, he is an adult and can do as he chooses. That being said you need to make sure you are happy and healthy regardless of his choices. If he wants to return home and you want to allow him to do so you need to have boundaries in place. Write out a list of rules he agrees to abide by, go over them with him and have him sign them. With my daughter I had things like she had to have a job within 2 weeks, she had to pay 30% of her income to me towards household expenditures, basic behavior, etc. Also spell out the repercussions if he doesn't follow the rules- likely he will be kicked out- and then stick to this. This protects you and gives him very clear expectations. I know it's really hard and I have a granddaughter involved as well, but boundaries and not enabling your son are the best things for both of you. Spend some time learning about boundaries and enabling. Sending peace to you. I know this is a difficult journey.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 748609, member: 11235"] Welcome- all of us here have similar stories. The bottom line is, as others have said, he is an adult and can do as he chooses. That being said you need to make sure you are happy and healthy regardless of his choices. If he wants to return home and you want to allow him to do so you need to have boundaries in place. Write out a list of rules he agrees to abide by, go over them with him and have him sign them. With my daughter I had things like she had to have a job within 2 weeks, she had to pay 30% of her income to me towards household expenditures, basic behavior, etc. Also spell out the repercussions if he doesn't follow the rules- likely he will be kicked out- and then stick to this. This protects you and gives him very clear expectations. I know it's really hard and I have a granddaughter involved as well, but boundaries and not enabling your son are the best things for both of you. Spend some time learning about boundaries and enabling. Sending peace to you. I know this is a difficult journey. [/QUOTE]
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