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My 20 year old son won't move out. HELP!
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 530662" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi and welcome,</p><p>Kelie, are you absolutely certain your son is not on drugs? Have you drug tested him? If you have, and he isn't on drugs, he may have a mood disorder, such as depression. In younger people, it presents as avoidance, anger, laziness, lack of motivation. Problem is, so does chronic drug use. He may be co-morbid, in other words, depressed and self medicating with drugs. By the way, meth use causes the user and wherever he sleeps to stink in a weird way - not exactly like body odor, but more of a metallic smell. You stated his room smelled - that's why I mention it.</p><p></p><p>In any case, he's beyond disrespectful. If he won't seek help, then he must go - you've sacrificed your entire adult life for him - it's now about time you made a life of your own. If your husband doesn't support that, your son is smart enough to exploit that - and the only one left frustrated will be you. You may have to eventually be the one to leave - for your own self respect. I know that's scary, but it's true. A normal or even semi-normal 20 y/o would not be content doing absolutely NOTHING constructive with his life. Misery loves company, and that is why his friends are like that too - they wouldn't be hanging around with high achievers, would they?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 530662, member: 13882"] Hi and welcome, Kelie, are you absolutely certain your son is not on drugs? Have you drug tested him? If you have, and he isn't on drugs, he may have a mood disorder, such as depression. In younger people, it presents as avoidance, anger, laziness, lack of motivation. Problem is, so does chronic drug use. He may be co-morbid, in other words, depressed and self medicating with drugs. By the way, meth use causes the user and wherever he sleeps to stink in a weird way - not exactly like body odor, but more of a metallic smell. You stated his room smelled - that's why I mention it. In any case, he's beyond disrespectful. If he won't seek help, then he must go - you've sacrificed your entire adult life for him - it's now about time you made a life of your own. If your husband doesn't support that, your son is smart enough to exploit that - and the only one left frustrated will be you. You may have to eventually be the one to leave - for your own self respect. I know that's scary, but it's true. A normal or even semi-normal 20 y/o would not be content doing absolutely NOTHING constructive with his life. Misery loves company, and that is why his friends are like that too - they wouldn't be hanging around with high achievers, would they? [/QUOTE]
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