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My 20 year old son won't move out. HELP!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 619204" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>WaveringFaith, it is hard for them to fool me because I had so many mental health issues and learning problems myself. I don't count depression as a legitimate reason to give up your entire life. I had it even as a young child. I was a very sad child. But I have fought hard all my life and, while I know how awful depression feels, IF IT IS REALLY DEPRESSION AND NOT DRUGS OR LAZY, then your only option is to try to make yourself well. There is much that can be done for clinical depression now, but not if you lay on the sofa, watch TV, smoke pot (very bad for depression), whine, refuse to move (exercise is GREAT for depression), don't challenge yourself at all (a lazy mind is bad too)...it is very hard work.</p><p></p><p>And I have zilch pity for anyone who refuses to try the entire medication trial of two months and adds pot and alcohol into the mix, which takes away the good effects that the medication may have. I guess I'm like a smoker who no longer smokes and is intolerant of those who refuse to admit it is bad for you and to try to quit. I also know that our fluttering about our depressed adult kids, if indeed they are truly depressed, doesn't help them. They need to take care of their own mental health. We can't give them chicken soup and hope it makes everything better. It won't. It's on them.</p><p></p><p>At least for those kids residing in the US, I think the drugs the kids take, including pot, have a lot to do with why they refuse to get serious mental health and I admit I"m intolerant of that attitude. Pot will not help depression nor will alcohol. Medication for depression is as necessary as insulin for diabetes and if you won't take it because you feel "weak" then if you get diabetes don't taken insulin either. They both correct imbalances in your system.</p><p></p><p>We, the loving parents who have tried everything, have a right to a happy life even if our grown kids are using every tactic, like six year old brats, to make us support them, enable them, dote on them, worry about them, etc. The best in my opinion that we can do is to show them where the resources are and let them sink or swim. Because if they are going to sink, we can't do anything about it anyway. </p><p></p><p>Hugs!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I realize it is not easy to watch, but I think a lot of parents, including me, get "played" by our manipulative adult children who think we signed up to take care of them until our last breath. And, of course, they are the most important people in the world!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 619204, member: 1550"] WaveringFaith, it is hard for them to fool me because I had so many mental health issues and learning problems myself. I don't count depression as a legitimate reason to give up your entire life. I had it even as a young child. I was a very sad child. But I have fought hard all my life and, while I know how awful depression feels, IF IT IS REALLY DEPRESSION AND NOT DRUGS OR LAZY, then your only option is to try to make yourself well. There is much that can be done for clinical depression now, but not if you lay on the sofa, watch TV, smoke pot (very bad for depression), whine, refuse to move (exercise is GREAT for depression), don't challenge yourself at all (a lazy mind is bad too)...it is very hard work. And I have zilch pity for anyone who refuses to try the entire medication trial of two months and adds pot and alcohol into the mix, which takes away the good effects that the medication may have. I guess I'm like a smoker who no longer smokes and is intolerant of those who refuse to admit it is bad for you and to try to quit. I also know that our fluttering about our depressed adult kids, if indeed they are truly depressed, doesn't help them. They need to take care of their own mental health. We can't give them chicken soup and hope it makes everything better. It won't. It's on them. At least for those kids residing in the US, I think the drugs the kids take, including pot, have a lot to do with why they refuse to get serious mental health and I admit I"m intolerant of that attitude. Pot will not help depression nor will alcohol. Medication for depression is as necessary as insulin for diabetes and if you won't take it because you feel "weak" then if you get diabetes don't taken insulin either. They both correct imbalances in your system. We, the loving parents who have tried everything, have a right to a happy life even if our grown kids are using every tactic, like six year old brats, to make us support them, enable them, dote on them, worry about them, etc. The best in my opinion that we can do is to show them where the resources are and let them sink or swim. Because if they are going to sink, we can't do anything about it anyway. Hugs!!! :) I realize it is not easy to watch, but I think a lot of parents, including me, get "played" by our manipulative adult children who think we signed up to take care of them until our last breath. And, of course, they are the most important people in the world!!! [/QUOTE]
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