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My 20 yr old clinically depressed son refuses help
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<blockquote data-quote="WaveringFaith" data-source="post: 634623" data-attributes="member: 17636"><p>Thank you Laura- I have always thought the same thing! I wonder how I know and hear of other children that have horrible childhoods, abuse, violence, neglect.. And they seem to be able to live and function normally with productive happy lives. Yet my son who has been adored by myself, all of our family, he was first grandchild, etc.. was given everything, formal education, all the love and support a child could receive, so many opportunities in life, yet they are severely depressed and can't even support themselves, and feel their lives arent' worth living. I will never understand it.</p><p> </p><p>I, too, was a young mother (had him when I was 19) and my whole life has been nothing but him and caring for him, every decision I made was for him. And when he turned 18 and went off to the university, I finally found a little freedom. I have my 10 yr old easy child who is so fun loving and sweet. Life was grand. I met a man, had freedoms, was hopeful for my son, then when the depression hit after his 1st year in college and he moved back in with me, all that went away. Everything has revolved around him and getting him well. 2 years of daily struggles and pain and the roller coaster ride of hoping each time it would be better. I feel for you and the more I read on here, the more I realize how important it is it to love and care for ourselves. I finally got to the point where I saw myself making all the phone call, confirming all the appts, reminding him of just simple daily things, it was so exhausting! I finally decided I would no longer do it, and that's when he moved out. I hope you find the strength to make any necessary decisions for your difficult child. Once you know you've tried everything, and nothing hs changed, it's not their turn.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs to you! Also, Child of Mine just posted a prayer about giving your child to your Higher Power. I just read it and it helped me tremendously, as lately I have really been having a hard time letting go. He's so far away, but I have no clue how his state of mind is, if he's found work, where he's staying. But I can't allow the pain and anxiety to take over. I recommend you read it!</p><p> </p><p>xoxo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WaveringFaith, post: 634623, member: 17636"] Thank you Laura- I have always thought the same thing! I wonder how I know and hear of other children that have horrible childhoods, abuse, violence, neglect.. And they seem to be able to live and function normally with productive happy lives. Yet my son who has been adored by myself, all of our family, he was first grandchild, etc.. was given everything, formal education, all the love and support a child could receive, so many opportunities in life, yet they are severely depressed and can't even support themselves, and feel their lives arent' worth living. I will never understand it. I, too, was a young mother (had him when I was 19) and my whole life has been nothing but him and caring for him, every decision I made was for him. And when he turned 18 and went off to the university, I finally found a little freedom. I have my 10 yr old easy child who is so fun loving and sweet. Life was grand. I met a man, had freedoms, was hopeful for my son, then when the depression hit after his 1st year in college and he moved back in with me, all that went away. Everything has revolved around him and getting him well. 2 years of daily struggles and pain and the roller coaster ride of hoping each time it would be better. I feel for you and the more I read on here, the more I realize how important it is it to love and care for ourselves. I finally got to the point where I saw myself making all the phone call, confirming all the appts, reminding him of just simple daily things, it was so exhausting! I finally decided I would no longer do it, and that's when he moved out. I hope you find the strength to make any necessary decisions for your difficult child. Once you know you've tried everything, and nothing hs changed, it's not their turn. Hugs to you! Also, Child of Mine just posted a prayer about giving your child to your Higher Power. I just read it and it helped me tremendously, as lately I have really been having a hard time letting go. He's so far away, but I have no clue how his state of mind is, if he's found work, where he's staying. But I can't allow the pain and anxiety to take over. I recommend you read it! xoxo [/QUOTE]
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