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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766050" data-attributes="member: 18958">There is a way that love does conquer all. But it exists in us. It is a spiritual connection. That &quot;place&quot; in each of us when we rise above the struggle of our lives.There is no way any human being can transform or control another human being without their buy-in. For complicated reasons in each of our stories, our adult children live differently than we would want.&nbsp; Ours is only to accept that. That's the hardest part.An addiction is something that takes over will, purpose, discernment, The addiction for our children has become the relationship that determines, guides and fuels their lives and actions. Parental love can't conquer something like that. Only self-love can.But we can find our love for them, and live there. But that requires protecting that place with boundaries--internal as well as external boundaries. Internal boundaries, ruminating, worrying, guilt, etc. when we run roughshod over ourselves are just as corrosive and damaging as our child's rampages. That is when we come to CD. I sure do hope we can find a way to stay together.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766050, member: 18958"] There is a way that love does conquer all. But it exists in us. It is a spiritual connection. That "place" in each of us when we rise above the struggle of our lives. There is no way any human being can transform or control another human being without their buy-in. For complicated reasons in each of our stories, our adult children live differently than we would want. Ours is only to accept that. That's the hardest part. An addiction is something that takes over will, purpose, discernment, The addiction for our children has become the relationship that determines, guides and fuels their lives and actions. Parental love can't conquer something like that. Only self-love can. But we can find our love for them, and live there. But that requires protecting that place with boundaries--internal as well as external boundaries. Internal boundaries, ruminating, worrying, guilt, etc. when we run roughshod over ourselves are just as corrosive and damaging as our child's rampages. That is when we come to CD. I sure do hope we can find a way to stay together. [/QUOTE]

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