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My Adult Son Has Been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Severe Depression and Anxiety
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 724357" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome. I'm sorry you are going thru this with your adult son. As you can see, you're not alone, many of us here have been in, or are in, the same shoes, it's a very difficult path to be on.</p><p></p><p>You might try reading the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment. Another good resource is a book called Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. If you haven't already, you might get in touch with NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They can be accessed on line and have chapters in many cities. They offer parent courses which you might benefit from. Many of us here have taken those courses. They offer support, guidance, information and resources. Contacting them may offer you more options. Private therapy is a choice many of us opt for. We need the support to make hard choices and to stick with our boundaries and a good therapist often can provide that for us. I'd encourage you to seek professional help. Many here also find solace and comfort in the 12 step groups, Al Anon, Narc Anon, Families Anonymous and CoDA. </p><p></p><p>Many of our adult troubled kids have profoundly negative impacts on our lives, our marriages, our health and our general well being. We are dragged around by their chaos. Most often our kids don't change, they often don't have any incentive to change as we enable them and provide for all of their needs. It is generally US who have to do the changing. As is often said around here, "nothing changes if nothing changes". Unfortunately those changes are not easy for us, we have to detach from our kids dramas, choices, behaviors and lifestyle's. </p><p></p><p>You matter. Your life matters. Your needs and desires matter. The sanctity of your home matters. It sounds as if you are at a choice point and in my opinion, your son is the one who needs to begin to suffer the consequences of his choices. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think there are likely more options then he either stays in your home and destroys your lives or he is out on the street. There are shelters. There is medication compliance. There are boundaries. There are rules. NAMI may be able to help you with options. Therapy will help you to see options as well. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. This stuff is very hard. Keep posting. Seek support for yourself. Focus on yourself. Make your needs and desires the priority. Your son is a grown man. You are not responsible for him. Begin to take your life back. I'm glad you're here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 724357, member: 13542"] Welcome. I'm sorry you are going thru this with your adult son. As you can see, you're not alone, many of us here have been in, or are in, the same shoes, it's a very difficult path to be on. You might try reading the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment. Another good resource is a book called Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. If you haven't already, you might get in touch with NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They can be accessed on line and have chapters in many cities. They offer parent courses which you might benefit from. Many of us here have taken those courses. They offer support, guidance, information and resources. Contacting them may offer you more options. Private therapy is a choice many of us opt for. We need the support to make hard choices and to stick with our boundaries and a good therapist often can provide that for us. I'd encourage you to seek professional help. Many here also find solace and comfort in the 12 step groups, Al Anon, Narc Anon, Families Anonymous and CoDA. Many of our adult troubled kids have profoundly negative impacts on our lives, our marriages, our health and our general well being. We are dragged around by their chaos. Most often our kids don't change, they often don't have any incentive to change as we enable them and provide for all of their needs. It is generally US who have to do the changing. As is often said around here, "nothing changes if nothing changes". Unfortunately those changes are not easy for us, we have to detach from our kids dramas, choices, behaviors and lifestyle's. You matter. Your life matters. Your needs and desires matter. The sanctity of your home matters. It sounds as if you are at a choice point and in my opinion, your son is the one who needs to begin to suffer the consequences of his choices. I think there are likely more options then he either stays in your home and destroys your lives or he is out on the street. There are shelters. There is medication compliance. There are boundaries. There are rules. NAMI may be able to help you with options. Therapy will help you to see options as well. Hang in there. This stuff is very hard. Keep posting. Seek support for yourself. Focus on yourself. Make your needs and desires the priority. Your son is a grown man. You are not responsible for him. Begin to take your life back. I'm glad you're here. [/QUOTE]
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