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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 358852" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>hi Xlagirl,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad that you finally made it over that hurdle you were struggling with since your thread here: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/should-i-hospitalize-my-son-33587/" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/should-i-hospitalize-my-son-33587/</a> </p><p>when you first were questioning about putting your son in the hospital.</p><p></p><p>I described then what it was like but I will repost what I went through here and add some more to it for you: </p><p><span style="color: Purple">"My oldest difficult child (who is now 18 and more easy child like then anything) was 6 years old when I first had to place her inpatient for the first time. I knew NOTHING of what I know now. In fact I knew nothing period really and was just beginning to learn the ropes via this board. It was THE hardest thing I have EVER EVER had to do! I didn't want to and couldn't face putting her in the hospital with so many fears and reasoning why NOT to do it. But the simple fact came down to, in the end, she was homicidal and suicidal and the day I did it, she was running away in a rage and gave my father a heart attack because he chased after her because she was running down a highway not thinking where cars were. I should have made the decision sooner I know now but I hesitated out of fear and being scared for her. I can honestly tell you it was the BEST decision in the end I ever did because after that things started moving along in a positive direction. We got a proper diagnosis for her (unlike what we had before) because they could evaluate her better then just in an office and do all the testing that was needed. They could do a medwash safely (take her off all medications) and begin trialing something that we could at least start out with (of course over time that would change a bit as she grew).</span></p><p><span style="color: Purple"></span></p><p><span style="color: Purple">She was not raging when we did it (and I know it may not occur for you like this). We waited for the next day when she was calm and took her on a ride and brought her to the place. She waited in their special room while we did paperwork. When the time came the transporters told her she had to go with them. Of course she did not like that, was afraid (didn't like to be away from us). She cried, kicked, screamed, etc.. I heard things I wished I hadn't but knew I had to endure. They ended up carrying her with her arms and legs flailing (4 of them to properly hold her). I cried for 48 hours and couldn't function it hurt so badly. I still hurt to this day but now know that I did the right thing. We did have to hospitalize her again but it never was like that either. I'm not telling you this to scare you, although it might. I'm telling you this so that you might see the reality of what "could" be so you have a heads up and can be prepared and know that it WILL be alright and that there are others out there that have felt what you are feeling and have gone through it."</span></p><p><span style="color: Purple"></span> </p><p>She spent 2 weeks there. We didn't get to see her for the first couple of days as they did some testing and work ups but then we did get to see her everday (if we wanted to- we couldn't do that because of distance and the limited time frames for visiting hours, just wasn't logical for making the trip). However, we could call anytime we wanted to check in with the staff regarding getting updates on her. The first time we saw her she looked a little horrible because she was on medication wash out and the second time wasn't too much better (phsicallly) because she was on the wrong medicine combination and she was a little bit like a zombie but still functioning. But the third time she was beginning to be very different and much better! They provided schooling there for her as well (they get all that information upon check in). They had daily activities with them as well. This place is a rare one too as they actually had a swimming pool! She LOVED that! Honestly, when we saw the place it looked like a skiing resort more then a Pschy hospital/residential facility (it had both). Most places are just the hospital and this is a rare find. She was nothing like she was when I dropped her off. She wasn't crying when we saw her and she wasn't asking to come home even. The only thing that bothered her was the food but that is because she had a food allergy and she was highly restricted in diet and she was ending up eating a lot of beans and rich (which she really doesn't like).</p><p></p><p>I really am glad to see that you were able to get your son in. I believe you are going to be better off and get a head and have a better time of it when he comes out with a firmer understanding of what is going on with him. He waved good bye to you. That is totally awesome!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Just keep coming back here and venting, crying, talking it through. We'll be here for you with lots of love and understanding and {hugs}.</p><p></p><p>Tia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 358852, member: 455"] hi Xlagirl, I'm glad that you finally made it over that hurdle you were struggling with since your thread here: [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/should-i-hospitalize-my-son-33587/[/URL] when you first were questioning about putting your son in the hospital. I described then what it was like but I will repost what I went through here and add some more to it for you: [COLOR=Purple]"My oldest difficult child (who is now 18 and more easy child like then anything) was 6 years old when I first had to place her inpatient for the first time. I knew NOTHING of what I know now. In fact I knew nothing period really and was just beginning to learn the ropes via this board. It was THE hardest thing I have EVER EVER had to do! I didn't want to and couldn't face putting her in the hospital with so many fears and reasoning why NOT to do it. But the simple fact came down to, in the end, she was homicidal and suicidal and the day I did it, she was running away in a rage and gave my father a heart attack because he chased after her because she was running down a highway not thinking where cars were. I should have made the decision sooner I know now but I hesitated out of fear and being scared for her. I can honestly tell you it was the BEST decision in the end I ever did because after that things started moving along in a positive direction. We got a proper diagnosis for her (unlike what we had before) because they could evaluate her better then just in an office and do all the testing that was needed. They could do a medwash safely (take her off all medications) and begin trialing something that we could at least start out with (of course over time that would change a bit as she grew). She was not raging when we did it (and I know it may not occur for you like this). We waited for the next day when she was calm and took her on a ride and brought her to the place. She waited in their special room while we did paperwork. When the time came the transporters told her she had to go with them. Of course she did not like that, was afraid (didn't like to be away from us). She cried, kicked, screamed, etc.. I heard things I wished I hadn't but knew I had to endure. They ended up carrying her with her arms and legs flailing (4 of them to properly hold her). I cried for 48 hours and couldn't function it hurt so badly. I still hurt to this day but now know that I did the right thing. We did have to hospitalize her again but it never was like that either. I'm not telling you this to scare you, although it might. I'm telling you this so that you might see the reality of what "could" be so you have a heads up and can be prepared and know that it WILL be alright and that there are others out there that have felt what you are feeling and have gone through it." [/COLOR] She spent 2 weeks there. We didn't get to see her for the first couple of days as they did some testing and work ups but then we did get to see her everday (if we wanted to- we couldn't do that because of distance and the limited time frames for visiting hours, just wasn't logical for making the trip). However, we could call anytime we wanted to check in with the staff regarding getting updates on her. The first time we saw her she looked a little horrible because she was on medication wash out and the second time wasn't too much better (phsicallly) because she was on the wrong medicine combination and she was a little bit like a zombie but still functioning. But the third time she was beginning to be very different and much better! They provided schooling there for her as well (they get all that information upon check in). They had daily activities with them as well. This place is a rare one too as they actually had a swimming pool! She LOVED that! Honestly, when we saw the place it looked like a skiing resort more then a Pschy hospital/residential facility (it had both). Most places are just the hospital and this is a rare find. She was nothing like she was when I dropped her off. She wasn't crying when we saw her and she wasn't asking to come home even. The only thing that bothered her was the food but that is because she had a food allergy and she was highly restricted in diet and she was ending up eating a lot of beans and rich (which she really doesn't like). I really am glad to see that you were able to get your son in. I believe you are going to be better off and get a head and have a better time of it when he comes out with a firmer understanding of what is going on with him. He waved good bye to you. That is totally awesome!! :) Just keep coming back here and venting, crying, talking it through. We'll be here for you with lots of love and understanding and {hugs}. Tia [/QUOTE]
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