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My BiPolar (BP) mother - on Ufo's and other paranoid thoughts - The guilt eats
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 377245" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Mattsmom, as I've been reading these posts -- and past ones about the situation with your mother, I have to wonder about your brother's ability to respect your boundaries. It seems as though in an effort to "be nice", he's sometimes willing to cross the line and try to mediate contact between you and your mother, even though you've made it perfectly clear that you don't want any contact.</p><p></p><p>If I recall correctly, it was your brother who keeps passing on your phone number, even after you've had it changed, and even after you've asked him not to (I apologize if I have the details wrong). I also think it couldn't be good for you to have to hear about and rehash her behaviour toward your brother, when you're taking such trouble not to inflict it on yourself. Combined with his disappearing acts when your mother goes off her medications and off the rails, it just seems as though he's being a bit passive-aggressive, and trying to push you into unwelcome contact.</p><p></p><p>My GFGmother is schizophrenic, and my brother liked to play "peacemaker", which usually involved dragging me into a situation where my mother had gone completely squirrely, and then wandering off while I was left to sort it out. I have since broken off all contact with my parents, and had to leave my brother behind too, as he wants to be popular with everyone, and therefore would not respect any of our wishes. Not suggesting that you take steps that drastic, unless you feel it necessary, but it might be worth a long talk with your brother...</p><p></p><p>I hope your mother settles down soon, so that your stress level can drop and you can get back to normal (whatever that is).</p><p></p><p>{{{hugs}}}</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 377245, member: 3907"] Mattsmom, as I've been reading these posts -- and past ones about the situation with your mother, I have to wonder about your brother's ability to respect your boundaries. It seems as though in an effort to "be nice", he's sometimes willing to cross the line and try to mediate contact between you and your mother, even though you've made it perfectly clear that you don't want any contact. If I recall correctly, it was your brother who keeps passing on your phone number, even after you've had it changed, and even after you've asked him not to (I apologize if I have the details wrong). I also think it couldn't be good for you to have to hear about and rehash her behaviour toward your brother, when you're taking such trouble not to inflict it on yourself. Combined with his disappearing acts when your mother goes off her medications and off the rails, it just seems as though he's being a bit passive-aggressive, and trying to push you into unwelcome contact. My GFGmother is schizophrenic, and my brother liked to play "peacemaker", which usually involved dragging me into a situation where my mother had gone completely squirrely, and then wandering off while I was left to sort it out. I have since broken off all contact with my parents, and had to leave my brother behind too, as he wants to be popular with everyone, and therefore would not respect any of our wishes. Not suggesting that you take steps that drastic, unless you feel it necessary, but it might be worth a long talk with your brother... I hope your mother settles down soon, so that your stress level can drop and you can get back to normal (whatever that is). {{{hugs}}} Trinity [/QUOTE]
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