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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 536062" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi CF, </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. You didn't say how old your brother was or at this point what you hope to gain by coming here. Not that I'm not thrilled to have you - I am. I'm just trying to get a handle on if you're venting, or if you're trying to help your parent's help your brother or if YOU are hoping to help your brother. Reason being - I'd like to know which direction to point you in. You say you have no love loss between the two of you. I completely respect that. Your parents (via your descripton) seen to want to "ostrich" the situation and not really make an issue out of it because of their social status. At this point they've put him out, and would just like to leave it at that. So he's out, he's gone, he's not bothering them, you or your little brother. What is the issue at hand? Not being sarcastic at all - but it would seem from all attitudes that since he's gone - and you have no love loss and your parents don't want to press charges or make an issue of his problems, and he's obviously not going to stop or seek help on his own - what could be done? </p><p></p><p>As far as a diagnoses? It would be near impossible to nail something down - we could hazzard a guess - but SO Many things come into mind, and factors would enter in - like Did he have any traumatic events happen in his life that could be life altering? Could any of those events have happened without family knowledge? Did he possibly have a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)? It could be an organic issue, it could be something that is personality related or it could be early onset schizophrenia, Conduct disorder that has manifested into Anti-Social disorder, he could be suffering some form of Autism on the spectrum, he quite possibly could be a kleptomaniac. He could be bored and just doing this for the thrill of it. (doubtful but possible) </p><p></p><p>If he's willing and you really care but are just exhasperated with how much he's hurt your family and he'll agree to it? I would encourage him to seek professional help in the form of a therapist NOW. If he's stealing from your family? It's beyond likely that he's stealing from businesses and other residences. Larceny or Burglary charges are nothing to sneeze at and depending on the laws of your country - and the residents? If he starts burglarizing places? He could end up shot or gravely injured. If petty theft doesn't thrill him any longer - he could one up this situation and go to bigger and worse situations. </p><p></p><p>The description of he was a cute kid - and all that? Meh - not much to go on. Well behaved, never got into any trouble, always a good student - went to universtiy - etc......UNTIL - would be more of a warning or red flag to me. Like some life-altering event that either you know about or don't - could be something simple as - a girlfriend broke up with him, he got a bad grade, he had a teacher that year that was mean to him, he had an embarrassing situation in school - he was teased, bullied......etc... Or a series of events that overwhelmed him and he needs to deal with those situations in his psyche and move OUT of that particular time he's stuck in - and grow up mentally from that point forward but can't because a particular event in time stunted him. Happens to the best of us. </p><p></p><p>I feel for your family - but there is help if your brother is willing to admit he needs help. Otherwise? I would stay the course of him STAYING his own course away from your house, change ALL THE LOCKS and do a perimiter check every time I left - and check all windows to make sure they are locked and can't be opened BEFORE I leave. He will of course have made keys to every door lock.....EVERY door. So if you think throwing him out - has saved your goodies? Guess again. He's five steps ahead of all of you. BE one more step ahead - and call a locksmith - TODAY....and get an alarm company - notify your neigbors of whom is to be at your home and WHO is not - and when they should call the police. EVEN if it's HIM. And let him know this is being done. That you have lookouts, an alarm - and locks changed. GET DEADBOLTS.....just my advice - I So be warned. </p><p></p><p>Hugs - </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 536062, member: 4964"] Hi CF, Welcome to the board. You didn't say how old your brother was or at this point what you hope to gain by coming here. Not that I'm not thrilled to have you - I am. I'm just trying to get a handle on if you're venting, or if you're trying to help your parent's help your brother or if YOU are hoping to help your brother. Reason being - I'd like to know which direction to point you in. You say you have no love loss between the two of you. I completely respect that. Your parents (via your descripton) seen to want to "ostrich" the situation and not really make an issue out of it because of their social status. At this point they've put him out, and would just like to leave it at that. So he's out, he's gone, he's not bothering them, you or your little brother. What is the issue at hand? Not being sarcastic at all - but it would seem from all attitudes that since he's gone - and you have no love loss and your parents don't want to press charges or make an issue of his problems, and he's obviously not going to stop or seek help on his own - what could be done? As far as a diagnoses? It would be near impossible to nail something down - we could hazzard a guess - but SO Many things come into mind, and factors would enter in - like Did he have any traumatic events happen in his life that could be life altering? Could any of those events have happened without family knowledge? Did he possibly have a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)? It could be an organic issue, it could be something that is personality related or it could be early onset schizophrenia, Conduct disorder that has manifested into Anti-Social disorder, he could be suffering some form of Autism on the spectrum, he quite possibly could be a kleptomaniac. He could be bored and just doing this for the thrill of it. (doubtful but possible) If he's willing and you really care but are just exhasperated with how much he's hurt your family and he'll agree to it? I would encourage him to seek professional help in the form of a therapist NOW. If he's stealing from your family? It's beyond likely that he's stealing from businesses and other residences. Larceny or Burglary charges are nothing to sneeze at and depending on the laws of your country - and the residents? If he starts burglarizing places? He could end up shot or gravely injured. If petty theft doesn't thrill him any longer - he could one up this situation and go to bigger and worse situations. The description of he was a cute kid - and all that? Meh - not much to go on. Well behaved, never got into any trouble, always a good student - went to universtiy - etc......UNTIL - would be more of a warning or red flag to me. Like some life-altering event that either you know about or don't - could be something simple as - a girlfriend broke up with him, he got a bad grade, he had a teacher that year that was mean to him, he had an embarrassing situation in school - he was teased, bullied......etc... Or a series of events that overwhelmed him and he needs to deal with those situations in his psyche and move OUT of that particular time he's stuck in - and grow up mentally from that point forward but can't because a particular event in time stunted him. Happens to the best of us. I feel for your family - but there is help if your brother is willing to admit he needs help. Otherwise? I would stay the course of him STAYING his own course away from your house, change ALL THE LOCKS and do a perimiter check every time I left - and check all windows to make sure they are locked and can't be opened BEFORE I leave. He will of course have made keys to every door lock.....EVERY door. So if you think throwing him out - has saved your goodies? Guess again. He's five steps ahead of all of you. BE one more step ahead - and call a locksmith - TODAY....and get an alarm company - notify your neigbors of whom is to be at your home and WHO is not - and when they should call the police. EVEN if it's HIM. And let him know this is being done. That you have lookouts, an alarm - and locks changed. GET DEADBOLTS.....just my advice - I So be warned. Hugs - Star [/QUOTE]
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