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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 681813" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Shutting down is the childs overstimulated brain saying "too much." Autistic brains are different and each Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child has different tolerance levels. My son fortunately was, as he aged...yes that can help, not always...to tolerate more. At the same time, he has never adspted to crowded rooms of people and, like the majority of those with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), panics when in sensory overload.</p><p>Jack is in a class for Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) children so his dad knows that he processes life differently. It would be best for jack if he loved him for who he is. That worked magic for sonic. Honestly, he is the happuest, sweetest, most beloved person around. No, he will not and has no interest in college. College is not for everyone. Most on the spectrum cant do college, but they can still be so happy. I know Sonic does not judge worth, his or anyone elses, by high work achievement or monetary achievement but by character. Im with Sonic there.</p><p>Autism is poorly understood right now, just as schizophrenia used to be (and oftrn still is).</p><p>I know I would not have liked SOnic in a class full of autistic kids. I think he benefitted by diversity. He was in a mixed Special Education class for a few classes and mainstreamed for others and the kids at his school were used to differences since they saw "different" kids all the time in the halls. Sonic mnever got teased and had some neurotypical friends. When people hear thatbSonic, who is well known in the community, is my son, I almost always hear them rave about how kind and special he is and thst they LOVE him. I beam, even though he did the hard work to be this person, not me.</p><p>Jack may be doing the best he can considering his level of ability and sensitivity to stress or sensory surroundings, in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) pushing only leads to the brain shutting down for protection or for meltdowns. And they dont like who they are.</p><p>Sonic was accorded timed accomodations for standard tests. If they became too hard or long "I just put down anything,"</p><p>Sonic was not defiant. But he knew his limits and would always take good care of himself, which was encouraged,</p><p>We need to take good care of ourselves, and our kids need to learn to love themselves too, I think. I know I had trouble learning to love/accept me. Thankfully. Sonic knows how and has good self esteem. Jacks dad is unlikely to get the child he wants who is like him. Its too bad. Jack will feel he let his father down and father will never accept that jack is differently wired. He does know it but seems to think it will go awsy if he pushes the teachers enough.</p><p>I see this more with men than woman. Ive been in a large group of parents with autistic kids since sonic was young. Ive seen autistic lids grow up. None are engineerd.</p><p>Very very brilliant aspies can do that, but jack doesnt seem like one.</p><p>Keep trying. These kids need gentle shoves and lots of praise. My son always responded well to positive rewards but they are all so different.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 681813, member: 1550"] Shutting down is the childs overstimulated brain saying "too much." Autistic brains are different and each Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child has different tolerance levels. My son fortunately was, as he aged...yes that can help, not always...to tolerate more. At the same time, he has never adspted to crowded rooms of people and, like the majority of those with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), panics when in sensory overload. Jack is in a class for Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) children so his dad knows that he processes life differently. It would be best for jack if he loved him for who he is. That worked magic for sonic. Honestly, he is the happuest, sweetest, most beloved person around. No, he will not and has no interest in college. College is not for everyone. Most on the spectrum cant do college, but they can still be so happy. I know Sonic does not judge worth, his or anyone elses, by high work achievement or monetary achievement but by character. Im with Sonic there. Autism is poorly understood right now, just as schizophrenia used to be (and oftrn still is). I know I would not have liked SOnic in a class full of autistic kids. I think he benefitted by diversity. He was in a mixed Special Education class for a few classes and mainstreamed for others and the kids at his school were used to differences since they saw "different" kids all the time in the halls. Sonic mnever got teased and had some neurotypical friends. When people hear thatbSonic, who is well known in the community, is my son, I almost always hear them rave about how kind and special he is and thst they LOVE him. I beam, even though he did the hard work to be this person, not me. Jack may be doing the best he can considering his level of ability and sensitivity to stress or sensory surroundings, in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) pushing only leads to the brain shutting down for protection or for meltdowns. And they dont like who they are. Sonic was accorded timed accomodations for standard tests. If they became too hard or long "I just put down anything," Sonic was not defiant. But he knew his limits and would always take good care of himself, which was encouraged, We need to take good care of ourselves, and our kids need to learn to love themselves too, I think. I know I had trouble learning to love/accept me. Thankfully. Sonic knows how and has good self esteem. Jacks dad is unlikely to get the child he wants who is like him. Its too bad. Jack will feel he let his father down and father will never accept that jack is differently wired. He does know it but seems to think it will go awsy if he pushes the teachers enough. I see this more with men than woman. Ive been in a large group of parents with autistic kids since sonic was young. Ive seen autistic lids grow up. None are engineerd. Very very brilliant aspies can do that, but jack doesnt seem like one. Keep trying. These kids need gentle shoves and lots of praise. My son always responded well to positive rewards but they are all so different. [/QUOTE]
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