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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 538884" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>TL, so glad you made this decision. Yes, it may or may not be the right place. It's all a **** shoot. I just want you to know that many with kids who have Borderline (BPD) traits have a hard time getting any program to work. Sometimes they make matters worse. Traditional level systems and punishing programs are very innaffective with these fragile kids. We did the best we could here with an intensive DBT program. They taught the skills well and the pros were ok-it was the "20 somethings" who were like paraprofessionals, that destroyed the progress because they were so unskilled. They created lack of trust, emotional turmoil and in-fighting because they were so unskilled and immature. I hated dealing with their ignorance and called them on it at every turn-even had to point out how what they did was undoing the therapy and progress and directly against program philosophy. Unfortuately, many programs have so many of these on staff because it is the only way they can afford to run a program. Help difficult child see that he needs to rely on his therapist and the professional staff. Empower him to go with concerns to these people. When we started working with difficult child on these- things got a little better. My guess is his acting out often happens with these less skilled workers???</p><p></p><p>Ask them about the training of all the staff and voice your concerns about his acting out and lack of progress. I am hoping that this helps-you are an amazing mom and have never stopped helping this kid. (((Hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 538884, member: 11001"] TL, so glad you made this decision. Yes, it may or may not be the right place. It's all a **** shoot. I just want you to know that many with kids who have Borderline (BPD) traits have a hard time getting any program to work. Sometimes they make matters worse. Traditional level systems and punishing programs are very innaffective with these fragile kids. We did the best we could here with an intensive DBT program. They taught the skills well and the pros were ok-it was the "20 somethings" who were like paraprofessionals, that destroyed the progress because they were so unskilled. They created lack of trust, emotional turmoil and in-fighting because they were so unskilled and immature. I hated dealing with their ignorance and called them on it at every turn-even had to point out how what they did was undoing the therapy and progress and directly against program philosophy. Unfortuately, many programs have so many of these on staff because it is the only way they can afford to run a program. Help difficult child see that he needs to rely on his therapist and the professional staff. Empower him to go with concerns to these people. When we started working with difficult child on these- things got a little better. My guess is his acting out often happens with these less skilled workers??? Ask them about the training of all the staff and voice your concerns about his acting out and lack of progress. I am hoping that this helps-you are an amazing mom and have never stopped helping this kid. (((Hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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