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<blockquote data-quote="Californiablonde" data-source="post: 682045" data-attributes="member: 2196"><p>Okay everyone I can breathe a huge sigh of relief now. The meeting is over, and went better than expected. My dad did NOT mention the Facebook argument at all, thank God! I was worried about that the most. I planned the meeting for 3:00 p.m. I had to take my son to meet his dad for the weekend at 4:30. I planned it that way on purpose, so I wouldn't have to endure the meeting for too long if it went badly.</p><p></p><p>For the first hour all we talked about was my kids and our jobs. My dad agreed with me that my job sounds horrific. I updated him on how my kids are doing in school. We spoke of my daughter, and my fears of her never becoming independent. My dad was a very good listener during that time, and basically agreed with me that difficult child is hurting herself in the long run.</p><p></p><p>For the last half hour he brought up the dreaded topic of mental illness. My dad gave me his thoughts on mine and my daughter's bipolar. He gave me examples of some of his students that he teaches. He told me that he has seen some of his 6th grade students with issues completely turn around and become "normal" by 8th grade. He told me they outgrew their disorders.</p><p></p><p>I badly wanted to disagree with him, and tell him that bipolar cannot be outgrown. It can be stabilized, yes, but never completely goes away. Instead I took all of your advice and just nodded my head. When he suggested I go off my medications completely, I did confess to him that without medications I have attempted suicide. That shut him up pretty quickly. After that, he didn't have much more to say on the issue, other than him suggesting I see a therapist for my anxiety, to which I agreed. I am actually going to schedule an appointment with a brand new therapist whom my psychiatrist recommended after our trip to Hawaii next month.</p><p></p><p>By the time 4:30 came around, we were pretty much all talked out. We left on good terms. He is coming back to California for a couple of weeks in July. He wants to make dinner plans with my kids and I. I told him I was looking forward to it. We hugged, and said our goodbyes. You all have no idea the panic attacks I was having on Friday before our meeting. I was actually sweating bullets before we met. I was so worried, but I am glad I made myself go. Now I can be at peace, if even only temporarily, with my dad. Thank you all so much for your support and helping me get through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Californiablonde, post: 682045, member: 2196"] Okay everyone I can breathe a huge sigh of relief now. The meeting is over, and went better than expected. My dad did NOT mention the Facebook argument at all, thank God! I was worried about that the most. I planned the meeting for 3:00 p.m. I had to take my son to meet his dad for the weekend at 4:30. I planned it that way on purpose, so I wouldn't have to endure the meeting for too long if it went badly. For the first hour all we talked about was my kids and our jobs. My dad agreed with me that my job sounds horrific. I updated him on how my kids are doing in school. We spoke of my daughter, and my fears of her never becoming independent. My dad was a very good listener during that time, and basically agreed with me that difficult child is hurting herself in the long run. For the last half hour he brought up the dreaded topic of mental illness. My dad gave me his thoughts on mine and my daughter's bipolar. He gave me examples of some of his students that he teaches. He told me that he has seen some of his 6th grade students with issues completely turn around and become "normal" by 8th grade. He told me they outgrew their disorders. I badly wanted to disagree with him, and tell him that bipolar cannot be outgrown. It can be stabilized, yes, but never completely goes away. Instead I took all of your advice and just nodded my head. When he suggested I go off my medications completely, I did confess to him that without medications I have attempted suicide. That shut him up pretty quickly. After that, he didn't have much more to say on the issue, other than him suggesting I see a therapist for my anxiety, to which I agreed. I am actually going to schedule an appointment with a brand new therapist whom my psychiatrist recommended after our trip to Hawaii next month. By the time 4:30 came around, we were pretty much all talked out. We left on good terms. He is coming back to California for a couple of weeks in July. He wants to make dinner plans with my kids and I. I told him I was looking forward to it. We hugged, and said our goodbyes. You all have no idea the panic attacks I was having on Friday before our meeting. I was actually sweating bullets before we met. I was so worried, but I am glad I made myself go. Now I can be at peace, if even only temporarily, with my dad. Thank you all so much for your support and helping me get through this. [/QUOTE]
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