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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 687301" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>M and I lived at a brothel for a year, while I worked at a prison nearby. I was already scared to drive highways and staying there was the only place I could get to work without being terrified.</p><p></p><p>We stayed out of it (business wise) and we were treated with respect and kindness almost all of the time. One of my best memories was when we made Thanksgiving for the whole place (in a motel room microwave and small outdoor gas stove.) It was too fun.</p><p></p><p>I had not remembered this when I wrote my posts although it was only about 5 years ago.</p><p></p><p>The issue as I see it for Slim is not the prostitution so much as the abuse. As I recall, Slim, your family had been involved in prostitution as a business. While you chose otherwise, and would have preferred that your daughter do so, too, your issue with her is how she exposes you and others to that which makes them uncomfortable. It seems more as if it is a control and domination issue--that she not rub your face in her lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>I see this as little different than the situation for many of us on the board whose kids try to dominate us and to muddy boundaries--regardless of the way they do it.</p><p></p><p>My son insisted on talking about wacky conspiracy theories. I could not stand it. He would not stop. While there was a range of opinion on how I should handle it, I chose to tell him I would not talk to him if he spoke to me about those things. That I wanted a reciprocal relationship, including talking about topics of interest to us both.</p><p></p><p>That was a turning point for us. 99.9 percent of the time he curbs himself. He is much more integrated in our lives, and he seems to be gaining in self-control in other areas as well.</p><p></p><p>I learned very late that it is both permissible and advisable to set limits and ask what you want.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 687301, member: 18958"] M and I lived at a brothel for a year, while I worked at a prison nearby. I was already scared to drive highways and staying there was the only place I could get to work without being terrified. We stayed out of it (business wise) and we were treated with respect and kindness almost all of the time. One of my best memories was when we made Thanksgiving for the whole place (in a motel room microwave and small outdoor gas stove.) It was too fun. I had not remembered this when I wrote my posts although it was only about 5 years ago. The issue as I see it for Slim is not the prostitution so much as the abuse. As I recall, Slim, your family had been involved in prostitution as a business. While you chose otherwise, and would have preferred that your daughter do so, too, your issue with her is how she exposes you and others to that which makes them uncomfortable. It seems more as if it is a control and domination issue--that she not rub your face in her lifestyle. I see this as little different than the situation for many of us on the board whose kids try to dominate us and to muddy boundaries--regardless of the way they do it. My son insisted on talking about wacky conspiracy theories. I could not stand it. He would not stop. While there was a range of opinion on how I should handle it, I chose to tell him I would not talk to him if he spoke to me about those things. That I wanted a reciprocal relationship, including talking about topics of interest to us both. That was a turning point for us. 99.9 percent of the time he curbs himself. He is much more integrated in our lives, and he seems to be gaining in self-control in other areas as well. I learned very late that it is both permissible and advisable to set limits and ask what you want. [/QUOTE]
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