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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 690054" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Slim</p><p></p><p>I somehow missed this post where you referenced my situation. Thank you for reading about us--my son and I. </p><p></p><p>My son (2 and a half weeks later, I think) is now with us, in our house! In the 2 weeks since we were in touch he left us altogether for a few days to go to a large metro 3 hours from here, was homeless because nobody accepted him, and returned, more humbled. We had squarely caught him high and threw him out.</p><p></p><p>He is advised he will now be random drug-tested. Good luck!! Because he smoked weed again while gone. He is quite anxious because he knows we are serious now.</p><p></p><p>The conspiracy theories he keeps quiet about because he knows about that too!! </p><p></p><p>He is getting sweeter and sweeter, but that is not why he is here with us. Some vagrant guy attacked him on the porch in the house where he is staying (I own it. We bought it for his use, because I got sick every time he was here. Until we can get the house looking like it is occupied and he has others there with him I do not want him to be alone there. </p><p></p><p>But even 6 months ago I would have never imagined I could tolerate him so close. I will count my blessings. My son idolizes Donald Trump, but I believe it is in the main for shock-value. My politics are on the other end of the spectrum. </p><p>This is very interesting to me. There was an editorial yesterday in the New York Times by David Brooks who recently wrote a best-selling book on character, which I have not read.</p><p></p><p>He asks the question why Hillary Clinton is not well-liked by the American electorate. He postulates that the reason is because she is completely work-oriented and the impression is that her character, her choices, her everything is in the service of work. And this is what the public mistrusts. He cites two books one, <em>The Sabbath</em> by Heschel of which I am familiar, the second by a man I think his name was Josef Peiper a Catholic Theological with the word Leisure in the title. </p><p></p><p>The gist of things is that we in the USA, for sure, think of leisure as re-fueling for work. These theorists argue the reverse: leisure is the main event. We work in order to rest, not to sleep or veg but to celebrate. Leisure is a gift to ourselves and it is leisure which gives birth to culture. Not work. I am enamored of this idea. And here you are, living this.</p><p></p><p>Here you are talking about your response to the lifestyle of your daughter:The idea of purification comes to mind, and in a sense unifies this post. For one, that was the response I had to my sons conspiracy theory ramblings. I felt them toxic. To me, and for him. I could not bear that he fill his beautiful mind with this poison.</p><p></p><p>I told him last week, when he began to speak out loud his fears about some possible calamity or another:</p><p></p><p><em>Garbage in garbage out. </em></p><p></p><p>I could not get him to understand that his perseveration about disaster, plots, <em>was toxic to him, was poisoning his mind.</em></p><p></p><p>So to bring it full circle <em>leisure</em> must have something to do with purification. Creating through loving and purposeful activity, reconstructs not just culture but soul.</p><p></p><p>You know, Slim, our children have something in common. My son when he was 19 found out he had chronic hepatitis B which he acquired at birth from his birth mother. When his condition worsened a year later we were both devastated. My son's mental illness developed right after this time. He felt polluted by his parent's drug addiction and undisciplined behavior.</p><p></p><p>I am wondering if your daughter's diagnosis of Crohn's Disease might have had a similar effect. The loss of control. The loss of confidence in one's strength. The sense of being broken. Can you see why she might want to, need to achieve control and dominance over others, that she no longer felt in herself?</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I am glad I found your thread. For some reason I do not get many alerts. Sorry. I would have responded sooner if I had.</p><p></p><p>To close, I am glad you are finding your strength. I believe (hope) that this is a phase your daughter is living, in order to make sense of and to work through something--having nothing to do with prostitution and sex.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 690054, member: 18958"] Hi Slim I somehow missed this post where you referenced my situation. Thank you for reading about us--my son and I. My son (2 and a half weeks later, I think) is now with us, in our house! In the 2 weeks since we were in touch he left us altogether for a few days to go to a large metro 3 hours from here, was homeless because nobody accepted him, and returned, more humbled. We had squarely caught him high and threw him out. He is advised he will now be random drug-tested. Good luck!! Because he smoked weed again while gone. He is quite anxious because he knows we are serious now. The conspiracy theories he keeps quiet about because he knows about that too!! He is getting sweeter and sweeter, but that is not why he is here with us. Some vagrant guy attacked him on the porch in the house where he is staying (I own it. We bought it for his use, because I got sick every time he was here. Until we can get the house looking like it is occupied and he has others there with him I do not want him to be alone there. But even 6 months ago I would have never imagined I could tolerate him so close. I will count my blessings. My son idolizes Donald Trump, but I believe it is in the main for shock-value. My politics are on the other end of the spectrum. This is very interesting to me. There was an editorial yesterday in the New York Times by David Brooks who recently wrote a best-selling book on character, which I have not read. He asks the question why Hillary Clinton is not well-liked by the American electorate. He postulates that the reason is because she is completely work-oriented and the impression is that her character, her choices, her everything is in the service of work. And this is what the public mistrusts. He cites two books one, [I]The Sabbath[/I] by Heschel of which I am familiar, the second by a man I think his name was Josef Peiper a Catholic Theological with the word Leisure in the title. The gist of things is that we in the USA, for sure, think of leisure as re-fueling for work. These theorists argue the reverse: leisure is the main event. We work in order to rest, not to sleep or veg but to celebrate. Leisure is a gift to ourselves and it is leisure which gives birth to culture. Not work. I am enamored of this idea. And here you are, living this. Here you are talking about your response to the lifestyle of your daughter:The idea of purification comes to mind, and in a sense unifies this post. For one, that was the response I had to my sons conspiracy theory ramblings. I felt them toxic. To me, and for him. I could not bear that he fill his beautiful mind with this poison. I told him last week, when he began to speak out loud his fears about some possible calamity or another: [I]Garbage in garbage out. [/I] I could not get him to understand that his perseveration about disaster, plots, [I]was toxic to him, was poisoning his mind.[/I] So to bring it full circle [I]leisure[/I] must have something to do with purification. Creating through loving and purposeful activity, reconstructs not just culture but soul. You know, Slim, our children have something in common. My son when he was 19 found out he had chronic hepatitis B which he acquired at birth from his birth mother. When his condition worsened a year later we were both devastated. My son's mental illness developed right after this time. He felt polluted by his parent's drug addiction and undisciplined behavior. I am wondering if your daughter's diagnosis of Crohn's Disease might have had a similar effect. The loss of control. The loss of confidence in one's strength. The sense of being broken. Can you see why she might want to, need to achieve control and dominance over others, that she no longer felt in herself? Anyway, I am glad I found your thread. For some reason I do not get many alerts. Sorry. I would have responded sooner if I had. To close, I am glad you are finding your strength. I believe (hope) that this is a phase your daughter is living, in order to make sense of and to work through something--having nothing to do with prostitution and sex. [/QUOTE]
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