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<blockquote data-quote="Mynamesake" data-source="post: 764640" data-attributes="member: 32902"><p>Hello Slimothy: I’m new here. How did I find you… I googled “ as a mom what do I do if my precious daughter decides to become an escort”, it brought me to your story. It’s 2024 and although it’s been many years for you, your first paragraph feels like I wrote it. I was almost confused, reading it trying to understand how you knew exactly what I was feeling and doing. My daughter is 20 and October 2023 she decided to be an escort. My world is forever changed. If the world felt unsafe before… It’s terrifying now. Gasping for air on a daily basis. I’ve always been very close with my daughter, a relationship that many envied. When asked what I was doing as a mom to have such a close relationship with her, my only response was that I was lucky. She was an easy child. I always felt like I did something good in my life being her mom, I was good at parenting and a good person. All of that has come to a screeching halt. I no longer know the person I look at when I look at my daughter or when I look at myself in the mirror. All that love, happiness and memories feel like a movie I watched of somebody else’s life. It’s all very confusing and very sad. </p><p></p><p>My daughter was raised in a middle- high class neighbourhood, we were probably more middle class. We had many friends and lots of community connections. She danced competitively and was super easy-going. She didn’t seem to have problems socially. Life changed in 2015 when I filed for divorce. Along with normal marital problems my ex-husband’s had a secret life of gambling, escorts and addiction. When I say secret, I mean, he hid it well. I’m not some quiet little mouse, I pay attention, I ask questions. He had significant mood swings, but I thought that was mental health. I didn’t understand what a high functioning addict looked like. </p><p>Jumping forward, he took out his anger related to the divorce on our daughter. I was the buffer as always. I thought it was enough. Then my daughter met a boy who introduced her to her first toxic relationship outside of her father. He also introduced her to cocaine. I helped her get treatment twice. Her father was not involved. Jumping ahead she was finally clean. She was just about to start a new job on October 8, 2023. She had mentioned a new guy that she was talking to. Something felt off and at this point, I was well rehearsed in the signs to look for. It was only a week of knowing this boy and she was lured into the sex trade industry, working in a spa. Telling me this is what she wants to do with her life and handing all of her money over to him. She told me that it’s a new generation and times of changed. She said I needed help, if I’m having a problem with this I should get counselling. That’s the short version of the story. Life has forever changed. I wish I could turn back time, take her away… I’m at a loss. Legally nothing can be done to help her. Yet this is clearly mental health. This choice is related to trauma and coercion. She’s been brainwashed. If you knew her growing up never in a million years would you ever guess this beautiful soul would end up living this life. I don’t know how to accept it. I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t know how to help her. I tell her I love her no matter what, I’m here for her no matter what, I will help her no matter what. I remember once when she was 12 crying because of her father’s behavior, they had had a conversation in school regarding mental health. She was worried that one day she might have bipolar like her father. I told her I see no signs of that, but no matter what happens in the future I would always be there to help her and support her. I feel like I’m letting her down now. I feel like I need to go in and kidnap her, lock her in a room, get her the help that she needs. Keep her hidden and safe until she is better with a clear mind, and a clear heart, feeling worthy of herself. Yet, that’s illegal. I feel like there’s a gap in our society. We should be helping people in this situation. Whether it is drug-related, mental health, or sex trade. It’s all the same. It all stems from trauma. At least that’s how I see it through my lens. Nobody healthy chooses this <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😔" title="Pensive face :pensive:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f614.png" data-shortname=":pensive:" /></p><p></p><p>With that said, I would be open to a conversation with others that have gone through the same or similar experience. As well as, an update as to how things are with you and your daughter. I’m hopeful for the best. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="💕" title="Two hearts :two_hearts:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f495.png" data-shortname=":two_hearts:" /></p><p>~Love and strength</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mynamesake, post: 764640, member: 32902"] Hello Slimothy: I’m new here. How did I find you… I googled “ as a mom what do I do if my precious daughter decides to become an escort”, it brought me to your story. It’s 2024 and although it’s been many years for you, your first paragraph feels like I wrote it. I was almost confused, reading it trying to understand how you knew exactly what I was feeling and doing. My daughter is 20 and October 2023 she decided to be an escort. My world is forever changed. If the world felt unsafe before… It’s terrifying now. Gasping for air on a daily basis. I’ve always been very close with my daughter, a relationship that many envied. When asked what I was doing as a mom to have such a close relationship with her, my only response was that I was lucky. She was an easy child. I always felt like I did something good in my life being her mom, I was good at parenting and a good person. All of that has come to a screeching halt. I no longer know the person I look at when I look at my daughter or when I look at myself in the mirror. All that love, happiness and memories feel like a movie I watched of somebody else’s life. It’s all very confusing and very sad. My daughter was raised in a middle- high class neighbourhood, we were probably more middle class. We had many friends and lots of community connections. She danced competitively and was super easy-going. She didn’t seem to have problems socially. Life changed in 2015 when I filed for divorce. Along with normal marital problems my ex-husband’s had a secret life of gambling, escorts and addiction. When I say secret, I mean, he hid it well. I’m not some quiet little mouse, I pay attention, I ask questions. He had significant mood swings, but I thought that was mental health. I didn’t understand what a high functioning addict looked like. Jumping forward, he took out his anger related to the divorce on our daughter. I was the buffer as always. I thought it was enough. Then my daughter met a boy who introduced her to her first toxic relationship outside of her father. He also introduced her to cocaine. I helped her get treatment twice. Her father was not involved. Jumping ahead she was finally clean. She was just about to start a new job on October 8, 2023. She had mentioned a new guy that she was talking to. Something felt off and at this point, I was well rehearsed in the signs to look for. It was only a week of knowing this boy and she was lured into the sex trade industry, working in a spa. Telling me this is what she wants to do with her life and handing all of her money over to him. She told me that it’s a new generation and times of changed. She said I needed help, if I’m having a problem with this I should get counselling. That’s the short version of the story. Life has forever changed. I wish I could turn back time, take her away… I’m at a loss. Legally nothing can be done to help her. Yet this is clearly mental health. This choice is related to trauma and coercion. She’s been brainwashed. If you knew her growing up never in a million years would you ever guess this beautiful soul would end up living this life. I don’t know how to accept it. I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t know how to help her. I tell her I love her no matter what, I’m here for her no matter what, I will help her no matter what. I remember once when she was 12 crying because of her father’s behavior, they had had a conversation in school regarding mental health. She was worried that one day she might have bipolar like her father. I told her I see no signs of that, but no matter what happens in the future I would always be there to help her and support her. I feel like I’m letting her down now. I feel like I need to go in and kidnap her, lock her in a room, get her the help that she needs. Keep her hidden and safe until she is better with a clear mind, and a clear heart, feeling worthy of herself. Yet, that’s illegal. I feel like there’s a gap in our society. We should be helping people in this situation. Whether it is drug-related, mental health, or sex trade. It’s all the same. It all stems from trauma. At least that’s how I see it through my lens. Nobody healthy chooses this 😔 With that said, I would be open to a conversation with others that have gone through the same or similar experience. As well as, an update as to how things are with you and your daughter. I’m hopeful for the best. 💕 ~Love and strength [/QUOTE]
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