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My daughter is engaged to a man she has known for 5 months
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<blockquote data-quote="Dixies_fire" data-source="post: 588668" data-attributes="member: 16184"><p>I am prior service army and have been divorced in the Army the rules about taking care of dependents. I myself had to pay my husband something you could term "alimony" until we my divorce was final which took three filings and ten months to complete. I can understand your concern for your daughter jumping into a marriage, but I also understand the way the military works, if you want to be stationed with your spouse you must be married so in order to have a relationship that is not doomed to failure through distance and hardly ever being allowed to take leave you must be married. I myself spent 6 months away from my current spouse because he had orders to PCS(permanent change of station) and I did not. So sometimes marriage is not even a good indicator that you will be stationed together or will see each other soon. Maye she knows something about his orders or her orders that you do not? I can understand why she would want an apology. While his divorce may be a matter of public record it seems a little extreme to get a copy of those records. I am very pleased for you if you have never gone through a divorce, but no one knows what goes on inside a marriage but the two people who were in it, there are three sides to every story. His/hers and the truth, and when you add the military there is an added dimension to the issue. I am truly sorry if anything I said came off offensively as that was not my intent, just my two cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dixies_fire, post: 588668, member: 16184"] I am prior service army and have been divorced in the Army the rules about taking care of dependents. I myself had to pay my husband something you could term "alimony" until we my divorce was final which took three filings and ten months to complete. I can understand your concern for your daughter jumping into a marriage, but I also understand the way the military works, if you want to be stationed with your spouse you must be married so in order to have a relationship that is not doomed to failure through distance and hardly ever being allowed to take leave you must be married. I myself spent 6 months away from my current spouse because he had orders to PCS(permanent change of station) and I did not. So sometimes marriage is not even a good indicator that you will be stationed together or will see each other soon. Maye she knows something about his orders or her orders that you do not? I can understand why she would want an apology. While his divorce may be a matter of public record it seems a little extreme to get a copy of those records. I am very pleased for you if you have never gone through a divorce, but no one knows what goes on inside a marriage but the two people who were in it, there are three sides to every story. His/hers and the truth, and when you add the military there is an added dimension to the issue. I am truly sorry if anything I said came off offensively as that was not my intent, just my two cents. [/QUOTE]
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