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My daughter is engaged to a man she has known for 5 months
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 588757" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I appreciate that you received our advice in the manner in which it was intended, to help, to support, to offer our empathy and compassion and to give you our hard earned experience because we all have needed those "reality slaps" where our kids are concerned. It's good that you are open to suggestions, I believe that will make the road with your daughter more smooth. </p><p></p><p>All of us here want to save our kids from any hurts we can, and yet, once they are grown up we really can't without sending a message to them that we don't trust them. We MAY indeed know better, but perhaps OUR parents knew better too when we were out there doing some stupid stuff as young people. And we did it anyway, and we learned too. It's the way it is, from the time they are born it's an exercise in letting them go. Sigh. All of us here are in some form of that letting go process, letting them go out the door to school can hurt our mommy hearts. Your daughter may walk into the arms of a bad dude and live to regret it AND you will be there if/when that happens to console her broken heart. OR they may surprise you and turn it all around............we never know how it will turn out.............hang in there, you were willing to listen to us......... be willing to listen to her, you will gain more in listening then you will in being 'right'.................hugs.............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 588757, member: 13542"] I appreciate that you received our advice in the manner in which it was intended, to help, to support, to offer our empathy and compassion and to give you our hard earned experience because we all have needed those "reality slaps" where our kids are concerned. It's good that you are open to suggestions, I believe that will make the road with your daughter more smooth. All of us here want to save our kids from any hurts we can, and yet, once they are grown up we really can't without sending a message to them that we don't trust them. We MAY indeed know better, but perhaps OUR parents knew better too when we were out there doing some stupid stuff as young people. And we did it anyway, and we learned too. It's the way it is, from the time they are born it's an exercise in letting them go. Sigh. All of us here are in some form of that letting go process, letting them go out the door to school can hurt our mommy hearts. Your daughter may walk into the arms of a bad dude and live to regret it AND you will be there if/when that happens to console her broken heart. OR they may surprise you and turn it all around............we never know how it will turn out.............hang in there, you were willing to listen to us......... be willing to listen to her, you will gain more in listening then you will in being 'right'.................hugs............. [/QUOTE]
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