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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 757490" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome. So sorry for your pain. We went through a lot also as you can see below.</p><p></p><p>My son is doing much better now thank GOD.</p><p></p><p>No one mentioned to pray for your son and yourself if you believe in a higher power. That is what got me through IN ADDITION to everything mentioned above.</p><p></p><p>Someone said here that we fret and worry and make ourselves SICK to death and to them it's just another Tuesday, Wednesday or whatever. How true that is!!</p><p></p><p>I am sure that your son is doing more than smoking weed based on your story. It hurts and it is hard.</p><p></p><p>One of my childhood friends lost her 26 year old son to a heroin overdose in July. He died in her home. She could not protect him from himself.</p><p></p><p>The reason why I am telling you this is because her son went off the rails after my son started to. I acted quickly. Looking for answers, solutions, then help. She buried her head in the sand. She could not deal with any of it. She didn't like it when I told her that he should leave her home because she was enabling him - as I learned here and from my therapist. She actually later said that she got mad at me. She came to me because she didn't know anyone else that was dealing with it. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame her at all. We are all different. Her son lived there for a good year holed up in his room moving from harder drug to harder drug. She continued to just let him be and paying his car payment after he lost his job when his boss called her to say he was "doing pills" and he was worried about him.</p><p></p><p>She finally did make him leave. He finally did get sober after many tries. After his last 7 months sober and working he came home again. He was doing pretty good. Loved his job and up for a raise. Then he went to a party after she begged him to stay home with her that night to watch a movie. He said "it's fine Mom, don't worry". She now blames herself for not knowing that he was overdosing one floor beneath her. She will never be the same. I try to comfort her as much as I can but we all know that losing a child is not something that we can overcome but have to learn to live with. </p><p></p><p>She wants to move because she can't even go into that room anymore because she will forever see him there the way she found him. But she can't. Her credit is ruined by trying to help him stay afloat. What good did any of it do?</p><p></p><p>I am just thankful that the people here told me what I needed to hear. I needed to get tough and get tough fast. I needed to learn how to parent 100% differently than I had parented our older boys and I needed to do it fast. It went against every grain of my being but I now know that is what changed our son and gave him a chance. It doesn't mean you don't love him. </p><p></p><p>Stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 757490, member: 15032"] Welcome. So sorry for your pain. We went through a lot also as you can see below. My son is doing much better now thank GOD. No one mentioned to pray for your son and yourself if you believe in a higher power. That is what got me through IN ADDITION to everything mentioned above. Someone said here that we fret and worry and make ourselves SICK to death and to them it's just another Tuesday, Wednesday or whatever. How true that is!! I am sure that your son is doing more than smoking weed based on your story. It hurts and it is hard. One of my childhood friends lost her 26 year old son to a heroin overdose in July. He died in her home. She could not protect him from himself. The reason why I am telling you this is because her son went off the rails after my son started to. I acted quickly. Looking for answers, solutions, then help. She buried her head in the sand. She could not deal with any of it. She didn't like it when I told her that he should leave her home because she was enabling him - as I learned here and from my therapist. She actually later said that she got mad at me. She came to me because she didn't know anyone else that was dealing with it. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame her at all. We are all different. Her son lived there for a good year holed up in his room moving from harder drug to harder drug. She continued to just let him be and paying his car payment after he lost his job when his boss called her to say he was "doing pills" and he was worried about him. She finally did make him leave. He finally did get sober after many tries. After his last 7 months sober and working he came home again. He was doing pretty good. Loved his job and up for a raise. Then he went to a party after she begged him to stay home with her that night to watch a movie. He said "it's fine Mom, don't worry". She now blames herself for not knowing that he was overdosing one floor beneath her. She will never be the same. I try to comfort her as much as I can but we all know that losing a child is not something that we can overcome but have to learn to live with. She wants to move because she can't even go into that room anymore because she will forever see him there the way she found him. But she can't. Her credit is ruined by trying to help him stay afloat. What good did any of it do? I am just thankful that the people here told me what I needed to hear. I needed to get tough and get tough fast. I needed to learn how to parent 100% differently than I had parented our older boys and I needed to do it fast. It went against every grain of my being but I now know that is what changed our son and gave him a chance. It doesn't mean you don't love him. Stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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