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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 672112" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Oh Terry, I so understand. I think sometimes people forget how raw we are, how tender our very skin is...it's so hard to be a punching bag and do the best we can and still feel like it's never enough and we don't know which way to turn. </p><p></p><p>If you think about it, there will be, on just about any post, a range of responses. From strident (I'll call it that) to very gentle. This is reflective of where people are in their own process, their own situation and their own journey. </p><p></p><p>This isn't really even about you or me or any other person. The response is about them, and often, we/they/us are talking to ourselves. We are telling the poster what we are telling ourselves about our own situation. </p><p></p><p>It helps us to write it down to someone else. It reinforces our own steps and process.</p><p></p><p>I know that may not help, when you are bleeding and raw from it all, but that is what I have come to believe, after time on this board. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Can you take a break, and then come back, if it's good for you to do so? You are setting a boundary here, and it's important for us to respect each other's boundaries. </p><p></p><p>Tools need to be helpful. If they aren't, don't use them anymore. Things to change, and people change, and circumstances change, and sometimes we are just so tired. </p><p></p><p>We need a break. </p><p></p><p>But then we might need to come back. </p><p></p><p>The door is always open to you. We are here for you. All of us imperfect people, having good days and bad days, up and down, strident and gentle...I do believe 99% of us have the best of intentions.</p><p></p><p>We may get astray at times, but we want to be loving and supportive and helpful because we have been there too.</p><p></p><p>We respect your right to do what is best for you, but please know we care about you and your family and your son. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs and love to you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 672112, member: 17542"] Oh Terry, I so understand. I think sometimes people forget how raw we are, how tender our very skin is...it's so hard to be a punching bag and do the best we can and still feel like it's never enough and we don't know which way to turn. If you think about it, there will be, on just about any post, a range of responses. From strident (I'll call it that) to very gentle. This is reflective of where people are in their own process, their own situation and their own journey. This isn't really even about you or me or any other person. The response is about them, and often, we/they/us are talking to ourselves. We are telling the poster what we are telling ourselves about our own situation. It helps us to write it down to someone else. It reinforces our own steps and process. I know that may not help, when you are bleeding and raw from it all, but that is what I have come to believe, after time on this board. Can you take a break, and then come back, if it's good for you to do so? You are setting a boundary here, and it's important for us to respect each other's boundaries. Tools need to be helpful. If they aren't, don't use them anymore. Things to change, and people change, and circumstances change, and sometimes we are just so tired. We need a break. But then we might need to come back. The door is always open to you. We are here for you. All of us imperfect people, having good days and bad days, up and down, strident and gentle...I do believe 99% of us have the best of intentions. We may get astray at times, but we want to be loving and supportive and helpful because we have been there too. We respect your right to do what is best for you, but please know we care about you and your family and your son. Warm hugs and love to you today. [/QUOTE]
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