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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 751838" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Laura,</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. I don't know the specifics as to how long ago he went back to Florida but from just reading what you've said your son seems like he has in fact made some good decisions and has been a bit stronger weathering some very difficult circumstances.</p><p></p><p>Is it possible that between now and the time he is planning on leaving that something could change to stop his plans? We as mothers tend to go into fright mode. We always think of the worst.</p><p></p><p>When reading your story it immediately made me think of some advice given in a book on Radical Acceptance regarding "pausing".</p><p></p><p>"Pausing enables us to accept what we are feeling, to notice what stories we're trapped in and not just react to the situation at hand. We allow space to feel our discomfort, restlessness and fears. When pausing and feeling the emotions we ask ourselves - What wants to be accepted?"</p><p></p><p>It's also good to remember that you only have the power to change yourself. You can't change another person. You can't change his desire to go to Chicago or to enter rehab or not. When we try to change another person, we are out of control and our life becomes unmanageable. The real problem lies with how you are relating to the problem/your son's choices.</p><p></p><p>My thoughts and prayers are with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 751838, member: 23405"] Laura, My heart goes out to you. I don't know the specifics as to how long ago he went back to Florida but from just reading what you've said your son seems like he has in fact made some good decisions and has been a bit stronger weathering some very difficult circumstances. Is it possible that between now and the time he is planning on leaving that something could change to stop his plans? We as mothers tend to go into fright mode. We always think of the worst. When reading your story it immediately made me think of some advice given in a book on Radical Acceptance regarding "pausing". "Pausing enables us to accept what we are feeling, to notice what stories we're trapped in and not just react to the situation at hand. We allow space to feel our discomfort, restlessness and fears. When pausing and feeling the emotions we ask ourselves - What wants to be accepted?" It's also good to remember that you only have the power to change yourself. You can't change another person. You can't change his desire to go to Chicago or to enter rehab or not. When we try to change another person, we are out of control and our life becomes unmanageable. The real problem lies with how you are relating to the problem/your son's choices. My thoughts and prayers are with you. [/QUOTE]
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