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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 751896" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>We very, very sadly can not trust our kids who use drugs. They usually do not tell us the truth about their drug use. Or much else. To this day, I have no certainty that Kay only smokes pot and takes Kratom. She could be using more, but drug addicts lie. Your son is an addict. It is likely that he lies to you about his drug use and motives in life. He, like our Kay, wants to keep you sympathetic enough to give him money, so the truth does not likely serve either of them.</p><p></p><p> Much like Kay's life, your son's life is incompatible with people their ages who are sober. They are struggling and making poor decisions. They are not self sustaining. They still want our help. They move a lot. They don't work steadily or at life sustainable jobs. </p><p></p><p>We, as parents, get excited every time we think they have made miniscule progress. Been there. Yet they don't make REAL progress... they arne not ready. They may never be. This scares me. I go cold inside thinking about it, but in our case it is highly possible. Maybe your son has more hope.</p><p></p><p>I pray that God gives you the peace to accept whatever your son does. Like Kay and us, your son's vision for his life is different than yours for him right now so all we can do is give them to God. </p><p></p><p>Loving an addict is unpredictable, scary and hard. I send you my prayers and hope for the best. Be sure to be well yourself. Good night.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 751896, member: 23706"] We very, very sadly can not trust our kids who use drugs. They usually do not tell us the truth about their drug use. Or much else. To this day, I have no certainty that Kay only smokes pot and takes Kratom. She could be using more, but drug addicts lie. Your son is an addict. It is likely that he lies to you about his drug use and motives in life. He, like our Kay, wants to keep you sympathetic enough to give him money, so the truth does not likely serve either of them. Much like Kay's life, your son's life is incompatible with people their ages who are sober. They are struggling and making poor decisions. They are not self sustaining. They still want our help. They move a lot. They don't work steadily or at life sustainable jobs. We, as parents, get excited every time we think they have made miniscule progress. Been there. Yet they don't make REAL progress... they arne not ready. They may never be. This scares me. I go cold inside thinking about it, but in our case it is highly possible. Maybe your son has more hope. I pray that God gives you the peace to accept whatever your son does. Like Kay and us, your son's vision for his life is different than yours for him right now so all we can do is give them to God. Loving an addict is unpredictable, scary and hard. I send you my prayers and hope for the best. Be sure to be well yourself. Good night. [/QUOTE]
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