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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 751900" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>He had my full sympathy with his first relapse...and I truly believe that he was clean from April until August when his brother passed away. But seeing the gradual changes in his demeanor and the way he talks to me (the arrogant condescension aside, he is more irritable and impatient than he has been in the recent past) lets me know he's keeping something from me. I tried to call him tonight. When he returned my call I asked him if he had a few minutes to talk. Instead of a civil "yes, I have a little time" his response was "Well i wouldn't have called you back if I didn't, now would I?" It went downhill from there so I quickly ended the call. I don't deserve that any more than I did before and I'm not putting up with it or dealing with it this go round. He called again when I was out of the house putting laundry in the drier but I'm not calling him back. I don't know why he tried calling again, but I'm certain it wasn't to apologize, and if it was to bait me I'm not taking the bait.</p><p></p><p>As for money, he knows better. It will be interesting to see how long it takes him to get to the point of asking me for financial help. It will also be interesting to see his reaction when I give him an unqualified no.</p><p></p><p>Like you I have faced the possibility that my son will never become an adult in the real sense of the word. I will likely not know where he is or how he is doing for long stretches of time. It's scary, especially when he's without a phone (which is very likely in the not so distant future) and goes dark on Facebook. I just pray that this go round I won't lie awake nights imagining the unthinkable worst. I hope I can operate on the idea that no news is good news.</p><p></p><p>He's again making decisions with no input from me...so he also gets to face the consequences of those decisions, good or bad, with no help from me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 751900, member: 22877"] He had my full sympathy with his first relapse...and I truly believe that he was clean from April until August when his brother passed away. But seeing the gradual changes in his demeanor and the way he talks to me (the arrogant condescension aside, he is more irritable and impatient than he has been in the recent past) lets me know he's keeping something from me. I tried to call him tonight. When he returned my call I asked him if he had a few minutes to talk. Instead of a civil "yes, I have a little time" his response was "Well i wouldn't have called you back if I didn't, now would I?" It went downhill from there so I quickly ended the call. I don't deserve that any more than I did before and I'm not putting up with it or dealing with it this go round. He called again when I was out of the house putting laundry in the drier but I'm not calling him back. I don't know why he tried calling again, but I'm certain it wasn't to apologize, and if it was to bait me I'm not taking the bait. As for money, he knows better. It will be interesting to see how long it takes him to get to the point of asking me for financial help. It will also be interesting to see his reaction when I give him an unqualified no. Like you I have faced the possibility that my son will never become an adult in the real sense of the word. I will likely not know where he is or how he is doing for long stretches of time. It's scary, especially when he's without a phone (which is very likely in the not so distant future) and goes dark on Facebook. I just pray that this go round I won't lie awake nights imagining the unthinkable worst. I hope I can operate on the idea that no news is good news. He's again making decisions with no input from me...so he also gets to face the consequences of those decisions, good or bad, with no help from me. [/QUOTE]
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