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My mother is taking over my life and I don't know what to do anymore!
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<blockquote data-quote="Second Time Around" data-source="post: 654928" data-attributes="member: 18739"><p>OMG! I'm still trying to pick my jaw up off the floor. What she did was totally out of line and illegal. Change all your passwords, talk to the phone company, the bank and the school. Make sure they know what's going on. Set things up with all of them so that only you can make changes to your accounts, only you can can be present at your children's' IEP's. Not only did she betray your trust and cause you a lot of distress, but if you don't make these changes, she could do something worse in the future and cause you serious financial hardship. What if she did something to stop payments on your mortgage and you lost your home? Like others have said, she is a sick woman and cannot see that this is wrong. You will need to protect yourself as she will probably become verbally abusive when you set these boundaries. Do you have other friends and family who can help you with appointments, etc, so you don't have to rely on her? Are there public service options that you can access for help? What about moving to a less expensive place so you have more of a financial cushion? I know California is horribly expensive, so that's hard. Look at all your options on how you can get your needs met without relying on her. She's your mom, so detaching will probably hard on you emotionally, despite what she's done, so keep posting here for support and if you haven't done so already, I'd recommend a therapist to help support you in this process.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Second Time Around, post: 654928, member: 18739"] OMG! I'm still trying to pick my jaw up off the floor. What she did was totally out of line and illegal. Change all your passwords, talk to the phone company, the bank and the school. Make sure they know what's going on. Set things up with all of them so that only you can make changes to your accounts, only you can can be present at your children's' IEP's. Not only did she betray your trust and cause you a lot of distress, but if you don't make these changes, she could do something worse in the future and cause you serious financial hardship. What if she did something to stop payments on your mortgage and you lost your home? Like others have said, she is a sick woman and cannot see that this is wrong. You will need to protect yourself as she will probably become verbally abusive when you set these boundaries. Do you have other friends and family who can help you with appointments, etc, so you don't have to rely on her? Are there public service options that you can access for help? What about moving to a less expensive place so you have more of a financial cushion? I know California is horribly expensive, so that's hard. Look at all your options on how you can get your needs met without relying on her. She's your mom, so detaching will probably hard on you emotionally, despite what she's done, so keep posting here for support and if you haven't done so already, I'd recommend a therapist to help support you in this process. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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