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My mother is taking over my life and I don't know what to do anymore!
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<blockquote data-quote="Californiablonde" data-source="post: 655012" data-attributes="member: 2196"><p>I forgot to add the reason why she has access to my bank account. Several years ago I took a Klonopin and drove and got arrested for a DUI. After my arrest, I had severe PTSD which landed me in the mental hospital for a week, and had me out on disability for six weeks. I was THAT traumatized. Before I went into the hospital, my mom told me she wanted me to sign an affidavit letting her have access to my account.</p><p></p><p>Reason being? Nine years ago I took out a loan from a shady internet loan service and never paid them back in full. As a result they had been trying to take money directly out of my account. I had to actually close my account and open a new one due to what this fraudulent company was doing. At the time I was about to go into the hospital, I had stopped hearing from this shady loan company. However, my mom wanted to make sure they weren't going to try taking money out of my account again.</p><p></p><p>There really was no reason for her to do this, and had I not been in an incredibly delicate state of mind, I would not have agreed. This was many years ago and I never did call my bank and remove her from being able to access my account. My bad. That part I take total responsibility for. Now I know I need to call my bank ASAP and completely remove her. As for the phone company, I have NEVER given her access or authorization to my account. She looked up the number to AT&T online, called on her own, gave them my social security number (they don't have passwords) and totally faked being me. I feel like my identity was stolen.</p><p></p><p>She completely broke my trust, and it's not something I can take lightly. As far as breaking off contact? I won't take it that far this time. Both my kids are incredibly attached to her, and to completely take them away from her I believe would be detrimental to their mental well being. I am, however, setting firm boundaries from now on and she will no longer be having free access to my kids. She will see them on MY terms. If she doesn't, I feel it will be necessary to stop her from being in our lives. I just hope it never gets to that point. She is the only family member we are close with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Californiablonde, post: 655012, member: 2196"] I forgot to add the reason why she has access to my bank account. Several years ago I took a Klonopin and drove and got arrested for a DUI. After my arrest, I had severe PTSD which landed me in the mental hospital for a week, and had me out on disability for six weeks. I was THAT traumatized. Before I went into the hospital, my mom told me she wanted me to sign an affidavit letting her have access to my account. Reason being? Nine years ago I took out a loan from a shady internet loan service and never paid them back in full. As a result they had been trying to take money directly out of my account. I had to actually close my account and open a new one due to what this fraudulent company was doing. At the time I was about to go into the hospital, I had stopped hearing from this shady loan company. However, my mom wanted to make sure they weren't going to try taking money out of my account again. There really was no reason for her to do this, and had I not been in an incredibly delicate state of mind, I would not have agreed. This was many years ago and I never did call my bank and remove her from being able to access my account. My bad. That part I take total responsibility for. Now I know I need to call my bank ASAP and completely remove her. As for the phone company, I have NEVER given her access or authorization to my account. She looked up the number to AT&T online, called on her own, gave them my social security number (they don't have passwords) and totally faked being me. I feel like my identity was stolen. She completely broke my trust, and it's not something I can take lightly. As far as breaking off contact? I won't take it that far this time. Both my kids are incredibly attached to her, and to completely take them away from her I believe would be detrimental to their mental well being. I am, however, setting firm boundaries from now on and she will no longer be having free access to my kids. She will see them on MY terms. If she doesn't, I feel it will be necessary to stop her from being in our lives. I just hope it never gets to that point. She is the only family member we are close with. [/QUOTE]
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