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My son is out. Again.
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 704143" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi Copa</p><p></p><p>So my take comes from wher I am at with our son who is now back in our home.</p><p></p><p>For me detachment is about detaching from his choices and life decisions and letting go of my wish to help him make better ones.</p><p></p><p>So for me making rules about drinking or smoking pot are futile. He will find a way to do it and lie to us about it in the process. So to me it feels pointless. Instead I look at things that directly affect me. So use of the car is limited and we agreed on an app on his phone so I can see where he is going with our car.... and obviously he will have no use of the car if there is alcohol or drug use.</p><p></p><p>He needs to treat us well, clean up after himself etc. clearly he is out if he does anything like steal from us.</p><p></p><p>So I know you don't want him smoking weed and I don't blame you at all for that. But I think trying to control that doesn't get you anywhere. Better to be clear about expectations of things that directly affect you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 704143, member: 15801"] Hi Copa So my take comes from wher I am at with our son who is now back in our home. For me detachment is about detaching from his choices and life decisions and letting go of my wish to help him make better ones. So for me making rules about drinking or smoking pot are futile. He will find a way to do it and lie to us about it in the process. So to me it feels pointless. Instead I look at things that directly affect me. So use of the car is limited and we agreed on an app on his phone so I can see where he is going with our car.... and obviously he will have no use of the car if there is alcohol or drug use. He needs to treat us well, clean up after himself etc. clearly he is out if he does anything like steal from us. So I know you don't want him smoking weed and I don't blame you at all for that. But I think trying to control that doesn't get you anywhere. Better to be clear about expectations of things that directly affect you. [/QUOTE]
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