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My son left. I asked him to.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 688977" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I am on the outside Copa, so my response may seem harsh, but .........man that seems so melodramatic and manipulative. I'm glad you feel mad, it certainly looks like he is now waiting for you to feel bad and seek him out and give up on any accountability you are asking of him. </p><p></p><p>One time when my daughter was staying with us, about 2 years ago I think.....she left because she said, "you have too many rules." My rules were basic, be accountable, participate and help (since she was staying with us for free and wanting to lounge around all day doing nothing). She would rather couch surf or be homeless in her car then be accountable. It's difficult to fathom. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry Copa, all of the drama, the uncertainty, the chaos, it takes such a toll on us. They change the rules to attempt to keep their way of life going, while our way of life crashes as a result of our trying to care for them and ourselves by simply asking them to meet us in the middle. My daughter is similar in that she is focused entirely on her self and what her immediate gratification is. I had to remove myself from her sphere by creating very, very strict boundaries around her behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 688977, member: 13542"] I am on the outside Copa, so my response may seem harsh, but .........man that seems so melodramatic and manipulative. I'm glad you feel mad, it certainly looks like he is now waiting for you to feel bad and seek him out and give up on any accountability you are asking of him. One time when my daughter was staying with us, about 2 years ago I think.....she left because she said, "you have too many rules." My rules were basic, be accountable, participate and help (since she was staying with us for free and wanting to lounge around all day doing nothing). She would rather couch surf or be homeless in her car then be accountable. It's difficult to fathom. I'm sorry Copa, all of the drama, the uncertainty, the chaos, it takes such a toll on us. They change the rules to attempt to keep their way of life going, while our way of life crashes as a result of our trying to care for them and ourselves by simply asking them to meet us in the middle. My daughter is similar in that she is focused entirely on her self and what her immediate gratification is. I had to remove myself from her sphere by creating very, very strict boundaries around her behavior. [/QUOTE]
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