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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 73781" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Susan</p><p></p><p>OK, now I am going to use the last ounce of help that I can muster up to help YOU. After this, I am not sure what more I can do.</p><p></p><p>You came here with a problem. Everyone jumped on board with hugs, understanding, and advice. The advice you received was pretty consistent. Your son is grown, and he is not your problem. You should not let him live with you. You do not have to take off work to drive him around. In fact, why are you driving him anywhere? It is not your fault that he is in this position, no matter what he says to you. He is trying to manipulate you. Stop allowing him to destroy the family unit until and unless he wishes to participate. If he is drinking and using, he is not participating. Detach, let him FALL, and let him hit bottom, so that he can get help.</p><p></p><p>Every other day, you were here asking what you should do. Nobody ever changed their mind and said "you know what, just let him stay."</p><p></p><p>And what is going on now?? He is there, you are worried about a grown man being drunk, and your husband is in another state without you. You say you go to AlAnon. Do you tell them what you are doing? What do they say to you?</p><p></p><p>The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different result. You said you don't know why you keep trying. Guess what. Neither do I. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 73781, member: 3647"] Susan OK, now I am going to use the last ounce of help that I can muster up to help YOU. After this, I am not sure what more I can do. You came here with a problem. Everyone jumped on board with hugs, understanding, and advice. The advice you received was pretty consistent. Your son is grown, and he is not your problem. You should not let him live with you. You do not have to take off work to drive him around. In fact, why are you driving him anywhere? It is not your fault that he is in this position, no matter what he says to you. He is trying to manipulate you. Stop allowing him to destroy the family unit until and unless he wishes to participate. If he is drinking and using, he is not participating. Detach, let him FALL, and let him hit bottom, so that he can get help. Every other day, you were here asking what you should do. Nobody ever changed their mind and said "you know what, just let him stay." And what is going on now?? He is there, you are worried about a grown man being drunk, and your husband is in another state without you. You say you go to AlAnon. Do you tell them what you are doing? What do they say to you? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different result. You said you don't know why you keep trying. Guess what. Neither do I. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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