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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 762570" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I know these two elements 1. We can't control our adult children and 2. We can only control ourselves and life moves on....were extraordinarily powerful when we went to the FA meeting. It's not that I hadn't heard this before. But, when we went to the first meeting and were totally destroyed by years and years of insanity finally blowing up into one gigantic horror...with me literally crying in a pile of MUSH...we got in the car afterwards and my hubby was bubbling over with energy and maybe even JOY. This is about Us...he kept on saying in one form or another. It's about US. Not the child. US. What can we do? We can only control ourselves. We can chose to put this behind us and to accept what might seem unacceptable...but we have no choice in the matter, anyway. The idea that WE had choices and control...the choice to move forward even with this craziness in the (DISTANT) background was ours to make and we made it. And we always and forever have control over US and we chose to make good and healthy choices and chose happiness. It sounds almost a little basic. BUT...it was mind boggling and freeing. We've taken our life back. Sure, we hope for the best...for her. BUT the energy behind that isn't there. There is no enmeshment. It's up to her. That good and healthy energy is with US.....our happiness...health...future. We are essentially free. I have moments very similar to what Copa describes. They are very painful. But, they are brief. They are only moments. Life moves on and it really is good. Blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 762570, member: 4152"] I know these two elements 1. We can't control our adult children and 2. We can only control ourselves and life moves on....were extraordinarily powerful when we went to the FA meeting. It's not that I hadn't heard this before. But, when we went to the first meeting and were totally destroyed by years and years of insanity finally blowing up into one gigantic horror...with me literally crying in a pile of MUSH...we got in the car afterwards and my hubby was bubbling over with energy and maybe even JOY. This is about Us...he kept on saying in one form or another. It's about US. Not the child. US. What can we do? We can only control ourselves. We can chose to put this behind us and to accept what might seem unacceptable...but we have no choice in the matter, anyway. The idea that WE had choices and control...the choice to move forward even with this craziness in the (DISTANT) background was ours to make and we made it. And we always and forever have control over US and we chose to make good and healthy choices and chose happiness. It sounds almost a little basic. BUT...it was mind boggling and freeing. We've taken our life back. Sure, we hope for the best...for her. BUT the energy behind that isn't there. There is no enmeshment. It's up to her. That good and healthy energy is with US.....our happiness...health...future. We are essentially free. I have moments very similar to what Copa describes. They are very painful. But, they are brief. They are only moments. Life moves on and it really is good. Blessings. [/QUOTE]
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