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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 748768" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I like what Copa said.</p><p></p><p>Minimize drama. You can do this with short replies and no confrontation and think about better responses later if you must. If they announce the worst, like a pregnancy, be prepared and stay calm. "I see. Hope all goes well." Then you can think on it later for as long as you want. Promise nothing. Don't show the emotion that is bubbling inside. The anger or joy. Stoic often is best.</p><p></p><p>Any begging for money, which seems likely, can be met with an easy going "I'm not able to do that now."End the discussion.</p><p></p><p>I like the idea of having a way out and maybe having someone give you a call in an hour or less. You will have to go. Its urgent.</p><p></p><p>We were the biggest enablers in history. We had to learn how to back off and keep it short and sweet. We are the ones who always said yes who had to learn how to say no. It wasn't easy. It is easier now.</p><p></p><p>We never see Kay without a plan. We expect to be hit for money and treated rather nastily. Because now we say no of course we don't get invited to take them out for dinner anymore...lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 748768, member: 23706"] I like what Copa said. Minimize drama. You can do this with short replies and no confrontation and think about better responses later if you must. If they announce the worst, like a pregnancy, be prepared and stay calm. "I see. Hope all goes well." Then you can think on it later for as long as you want. Promise nothing. Don't show the emotion that is bubbling inside. The anger or joy. Stoic often is best. Any begging for money, which seems likely, can be met with an easy going "I'm not able to do that now."End the discussion. I like the idea of having a way out and maybe having someone give you a call in an hour or less. You will have to go. Its urgent. We were the biggest enablers in history. We had to learn how to back off and keep it short and sweet. We are the ones who always said yes who had to learn how to say no. It wasn't easy. It is easier now. We never see Kay without a plan. We expect to be hit for money and treated rather nastily. Because now we say no of course we don't get invited to take them out for dinner anymore...lol. [/QUOTE]
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