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Navigating the roller coaster with difficult child son and impending grandbaby
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 664593" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>Thanks for the well wishes. This has been, in the last four days- a roller coaster like no other. I know many times I have been told "you have no idea how big your heart is until you have a grandbaby" and it was unimaginable to me- so I always thought I knew. I didn't know. I had no idea. I can't even TELL you all how in LOVE I am with this baby.</p><p></p><p>When it comes to my son- while he is who he is inside- there are many strides he has made. I'm choosing, at this point, to look for the good and not always wait on the other shoe to drop- I have to be positive and have that be the energy I put out. He's doing a great job. Has been there every step of the way with his girlfriend- has cried like a baby more than a few times over all this- because he also had no idea what this would feel like.</p><p></p><p>He has a long way to go. He has alot of growing up to do. But he's not using drugs (just got another job - that's his biggest issue- no job stability) and passed that drug test. He's not stealing (that I know of). He has asked for money, and a few times through the months has pulled the "well, you are going to want to see **********, and if you are going treat me this way then you can't" card - which I called that bluff early on and I've not heard that since.</p><p></p><p>They recently moved into a 3 bedroom rent house, he's working, she's working, baby is now here (had some minor breathing issues and is still in hospital- likely not going to be released until this weekend)- he has a new goal. And this might, just might, be the catalyst for long sustained change.</p><p></p><p>I know him- have known him every bit of his 22 years on earth. I've become very in tune (thanks to this forum) in reading him and becoming more aware of when he is bull$***ing me and when he's playing on my emotions. I've learned (and he's learned) to say no and not second guess myself.</p><p></p><p>My new grandson is going to change me too. Already has. Years of dealing with my son hardened me - a lot. This sweet sweet baby will soften me. I can't control it. I wish I could share a photo (but won't on the forum)- I'm so proud. </p><p></p><p>NOTHING prepares you for this. Nothing.</p><p></p><p>Y'all have a great night!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 664593, member: 18271"] Thanks for the well wishes. This has been, in the last four days- a roller coaster like no other. I know many times I have been told "you have no idea how big your heart is until you have a grandbaby" and it was unimaginable to me- so I always thought I knew. I didn't know. I had no idea. I can't even TELL you all how in LOVE I am with this baby. When it comes to my son- while he is who he is inside- there are many strides he has made. I'm choosing, at this point, to look for the good and not always wait on the other shoe to drop- I have to be positive and have that be the energy I put out. He's doing a great job. Has been there every step of the way with his girlfriend- has cried like a baby more than a few times over all this- because he also had no idea what this would feel like. He has a long way to go. He has alot of growing up to do. But he's not using drugs (just got another job - that's his biggest issue- no job stability) and passed that drug test. He's not stealing (that I know of). He has asked for money, and a few times through the months has pulled the "well, you are going to want to see **********, and if you are going treat me this way then you can't" card - which I called that bluff early on and I've not heard that since. They recently moved into a 3 bedroom rent house, he's working, she's working, baby is now here (had some minor breathing issues and is still in hospital- likely not going to be released until this weekend)- he has a new goal. And this might, just might, be the catalyst for long sustained change. I know him- have known him every bit of his 22 years on earth. I've become very in tune (thanks to this forum) in reading him and becoming more aware of when he is bull$***ing me and when he's playing on my emotions. I've learned (and he's learned) to say no and not second guess myself. My new grandson is going to change me too. Already has. Years of dealing with my son hardened me - a lot. This sweet sweet baby will soften me. I can't control it. I wish I could share a photo (but won't on the forum)- I'm so proud. NOTHING prepares you for this. Nothing. Y'all have a great night! [/QUOTE]
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