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Need advice about my 20 year having a baby
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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 747899" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>You have your hands full. Of course, you want to do what you can for grandchild, but you need to decide on boundaries. Things can get out of hand quickly. I imagine once the baby daddy gets out of jail, things could get worse. Possibly jail time and a new baby will give him some motives to start adulting. But maybe not.</p><p></p><p>I can see thru my crystal ball of past experiences... That some women will do all they can to support the guy, but will neglect themselves or their child. He might want $ for cigs, beer, weed, etc. he will use the car when he wants to. Then you end up helping him on top f your daughter and grandson.</p><p></p><p>At the beginning of this forum is an excellent article on detachment. I would read it over and over. If you are married, discuss boundaries you want to set up. Tell your daughter, politely, what you want to be able to continue to help with, and also what you will be unable to do.</p><p></p><p>Also, is the car in your name? You might check the legalities of what liabilities you might be responsible for.</p><p></p><p>Good luck... Adding a grandchild to this mix just makes everything harder. Ksm</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 747899, member: 12511"] You have your hands full. Of course, you want to do what you can for grandchild, but you need to decide on boundaries. Things can get out of hand quickly. I imagine once the baby daddy gets out of jail, things could get worse. Possibly jail time and a new baby will give him some motives to start adulting. But maybe not. I can see thru my crystal ball of past experiences... That some women will do all they can to support the guy, but will neglect themselves or their child. He might want $ for cigs, beer, weed, etc. he will use the car when he wants to. Then you end up helping him on top f your daughter and grandson. At the beginning of this forum is an excellent article on detachment. I would read it over and over. If you are married, discuss boundaries you want to set up. Tell your daughter, politely, what you want to be able to continue to help with, and also what you will be unable to do. Also, is the car in your name? You might check the legalities of what liabilities you might be responsible for. Good luck... Adding a grandchild to this mix just makes everything harder. Ksm [/QUOTE]
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