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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 740628" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would not go to Social Security for help in getting it. They arent helpful. Aging and Disabilities work directly for the disabled (as well as elderly).</p><p></p><p>Sadly it is true that if the parent does not ask questions, the parent wont know. We deliberately adopted Sonic, as I call him here, knowing he was delayed, exposed to drugs in utero and would probably need help for his lifetime. And he was already getting services when we adopted him so we had a head start. I am very proactive and act out of "better to be safe than sorry" so I started out alone and lonely finding out all services Sonic was capable of receiving to help the adult outcome and it did not win me friends in the school until much later when he improved so much and the teachers started to like me and realize I just wanted my son to be his best.</p><p></p><p> I also did not think he would necessarily be self supporting because of his normal IQ. I could see that he struggled in many important areas. I think its shameful that parents of disabled kids are not told what their kids can get as help from an advocate ir teachers. If we hadnt had a small adoption subsidy, we would have applied early for SSI.</p><p></p><p>But most parents are timid about schools and getting help and really dont know where to get it. Or if their child qualifies. They take no as final.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion it would be hard for somebody with a barely normal IQ to function at the level needed to pay bills, get his own apartment and work full time without getting at least some money and support. Forrest Gump was an unrealustic movie. Most times these struggling people have hard times and there are less and less jobs in manufacturing etc. than there used to be. And sonetimes there are also learning disabilities which further hurt performance in life, especially work. And very frustrated adults often act out angrily. They shouldnt but it is common.</p><p></p><p>I would try for SSI and wriite down questions before going to the appointment, although Aging and Disabilities guided us well and even.sat in on calls to state programs. Ask, ask, ask. Ask anyone who may know. Call your state Disability Rights. You can ask anything even though your daughter isnt on it yet.</p><p></p><p>Its unfair but true that the people who push the hardest get the best results when it comes to state services and though SSI is Federal each state determines who qualifies. And I think its a no brainer that your daughter will. She obviously had services in school and wasnt able to graduate until she was 20. Did she get a regular diploma? My son did but always had an IEP...that helped him with SSI.</p><p></p><p>I wish everyone with obviously differently abled, difficult children of all ages the best. Some of your success with an adult is whether they want the help or not. My son was always very calm and eager to help himself. He was not a difficult child. I know there is a difference. All any parent can do is learn and try. That is it! Many adults turn down the help. But if they know it is there....what else can we do?</p><p></p><p>Love and light! You are all heroes for your kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 740628, member: 1550"] I would not go to Social Security for help in getting it. They arent helpful. Aging and Disabilities work directly for the disabled (as well as elderly). Sadly it is true that if the parent does not ask questions, the parent wont know. We deliberately adopted Sonic, as I call him here, knowing he was delayed, exposed to drugs in utero and would probably need help for his lifetime. And he was already getting services when we adopted him so we had a head start. I am very proactive and act out of "better to be safe than sorry" so I started out alone and lonely finding out all services Sonic was capable of receiving to help the adult outcome and it did not win me friends in the school until much later when he improved so much and the teachers started to like me and realize I just wanted my son to be his best. I also did not think he would necessarily be self supporting because of his normal IQ. I could see that he struggled in many important areas. I think its shameful that parents of disabled kids are not told what their kids can get as help from an advocate ir teachers. If we hadnt had a small adoption subsidy, we would have applied early for SSI. But most parents are timid about schools and getting help and really dont know where to get it. Or if their child qualifies. They take no as final. in my opinion it would be hard for somebody with a barely normal IQ to function at the level needed to pay bills, get his own apartment and work full time without getting at least some money and support. Forrest Gump was an unrealustic movie. Most times these struggling people have hard times and there are less and less jobs in manufacturing etc. than there used to be. And sonetimes there are also learning disabilities which further hurt performance in life, especially work. And very frustrated adults often act out angrily. They shouldnt but it is common. I would try for SSI and wriite down questions before going to the appointment, although Aging and Disabilities guided us well and even.sat in on calls to state programs. Ask, ask, ask. Ask anyone who may know. Call your state Disability Rights. You can ask anything even though your daughter isnt on it yet. Its unfair but true that the people who push the hardest get the best results when it comes to state services and though SSI is Federal each state determines who qualifies. And I think its a no brainer that your daughter will. She obviously had services in school and wasnt able to graduate until she was 20. Did she get a regular diploma? My son did but always had an IEP...that helped him with SSI. I wish everyone with obviously differently abled, difficult children of all ages the best. Some of your success with an adult is whether they want the help or not. My son was always very calm and eager to help himself. He was not a difficult child. I know there is a difference. All any parent can do is learn and try. That is it! Many adults turn down the help. But if they know it is there....what else can we do? Love and light! You are all heroes for your kids. [/QUOTE]
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