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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 727573" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think ksm's idea is great. It is ALWAYS helpful to include evidence to support your letter. Just not reams of it! I usually go overboard (can't you tell by my writing here that I tend to write more rather than less?). </p><p></p><p>Go for bullet points in your letter with short supporting documents for each one. Maybe something from each doctor if you have it. Or even not something from each doctor, just info about each doctor that he sees and something from the main doctors or just that your son has seen these main doctors. Your son's lawyers may have to get info from the doctors, but it usually comes across better to the judges if the info comes from family. It seems as if the family is involves. That is always a good thing, even if it isn't 100% the strict truth. With a judge who tends on the side of the against treatment, it can really help to seem as if you are more involved. As long as it isn't an outright lie, let her think it, I say. </p><p></p><p>Judges will be FAR less likely to read a whole paragraph. They will be likely to read those bullet points, especially if you keep them very short. I had a hard time when we dealt with the legal system with my son (as I am sure you can tell!). The judge did get a strong impression that we loved our son and were very involved, which was the truth. Here there are many parents who let the system raise their kids. We were not those parents. We even had letters from the hospital he was in saying they hadn't seen more involved parents (in a healthy way), ever. That helped us get what we asked for, especially when we put that letter first. I learned that the judge often only looks at one or two of the supporting documents, so lead with your strongest evidence. Whatever doctors say that he is truly ill, put that in the first bullet points and put those documents first. </p><p></p><p>If you have to contact doctors, ask for a short summary of what he has and what he needs. Tell them that you will even type it if they want to tell you what to say. I found that the staff put us at the top of the list if we tried to make their job easier. I also took them little treats to say thank you. I either took homemade cookies or muffins on a plate that did NOT need to be returned, or I asked how many people were in the office and I made Christmas ornaments or Valentines or whatever for the staff. Yes, the whole staff. I did all I could to sweeten them up and make them think well of us. Especially when my son was a difficult patient and I could do nothing about it. </p><p></p><p>These are just what I did when having to deal with office staff. If you cannot do for the whole staff, just do for the office staff. Right now I just do for the staff at one of my doctor's offices that I see directly. I do get better treatment by them than many other patients, so it does help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 727573, member: 1233"] I think ksm's idea is great. It is ALWAYS helpful to include evidence to support your letter. Just not reams of it! I usually go overboard (can't you tell by my writing here that I tend to write more rather than less?). Go for bullet points in your letter with short supporting documents for each one. Maybe something from each doctor if you have it. Or even not something from each doctor, just info about each doctor that he sees and something from the main doctors or just that your son has seen these main doctors. Your son's lawyers may have to get info from the doctors, but it usually comes across better to the judges if the info comes from family. It seems as if the family is involves. That is always a good thing, even if it isn't 100% the strict truth. With a judge who tends on the side of the against treatment, it can really help to seem as if you are more involved. As long as it isn't an outright lie, let her think it, I say. Judges will be FAR less likely to read a whole paragraph. They will be likely to read those bullet points, especially if you keep them very short. I had a hard time when we dealt with the legal system with my son (as I am sure you can tell!). The judge did get a strong impression that we loved our son and were very involved, which was the truth. Here there are many parents who let the system raise their kids. We were not those parents. We even had letters from the hospital he was in saying they hadn't seen more involved parents (in a healthy way), ever. That helped us get what we asked for, especially when we put that letter first. I learned that the judge often only looks at one or two of the supporting documents, so lead with your strongest evidence. Whatever doctors say that he is truly ill, put that in the first bullet points and put those documents first. If you have to contact doctors, ask for a short summary of what he has and what he needs. Tell them that you will even type it if they want to tell you what to say. I found that the staff put us at the top of the list if we tried to make their job easier. I also took them little treats to say thank you. I either took homemade cookies or muffins on a plate that did NOT need to be returned, or I asked how many people were in the office and I made Christmas ornaments or Valentines or whatever for the staff. Yes, the whole staff. I did all I could to sweeten them up and make them think well of us. Especially when my son was a difficult patient and I could do nothing about it. These are just what I did when having to deal with office staff. If you cannot do for the whole staff, just do for the office staff. Right now I just do for the staff at one of my doctor's offices that I see directly. I do get better treatment by them than many other patients, so it does help. [/QUOTE]
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